We believe that somehow since we were born and that it is impossible to change that, however, we have the ability to generate certain changes in our personality and thus become better people or have healthier relationships, it’s just a matter of getting involved
The very language we use is complicit in this perception of immutability. The verb be? Act like a conviction, why? Be?It looks like something you can’t change; but our personality can be defined in many ways and improved over time.
- Contrary to what we consider.
- Personality is not something static and immobile.
- But can be shaped by external stimuli and everything that happens around us.
- From birth we integrate habits.
- Experiences and even traumas that shape our character.
The truth is that over the years our attitudes are usually the same or very similar, so we ended up believing that the personality was “marked by fire?”, as if it were a tattoo. That’ll never change.
The good news is that we have the ability to change features that we don’t like very much and to improve the relationship we have with ourselves and others, although it’s easier?By changing personality parts when we are children or adolescents, we can also get positive results in adulthood.
Even if you believe in your age? it is impossible to change, we recommend that you think twice before believing this statement, the changes may not be as radical or tangible, but there will always be changes, that is sure, those small changes in our character may be the ones that help us live happier and improve as people.
You don’t need to have a serious personality disorder to seek therapy and start changing our attitudes toward everything around us. Changes are positive and necessary; We can’t always stay in the same position. Remember the phrase: be like the flowing river and not stagnate?and apply this teaching in your daily life.
Were you the same person two, five or ten years ago?And we’re not talking about size, weight or experience, or studies or accomplishments. What you liked in your youth is certainly not the same as what you love today, or vice versa. So why do we hold on to the idea that personality can’t change?
Have you ever wondered if I could change my personality?It can be the way you act or be what ruins your relationships with others or yourself. The first step to improvement has already been taken, congratulations!Now begins the process of asking for help and following up on tips you probably don’t like, but will eventually be used to achieve your goals.
Most people who are in the same situation as you want to change a specific personality trait, we’re not saying that you should become a completely different person than you, but you need to improve aspects that aren’t entirely positive.
Maybe your loved ones have made you realize that you’re a little selfish, that you’re easily distracted, that you can’t make good decisions, or that you’re too late, you seem to have a lot of work to do!
Any change you want to make to your personality will take time and effort, it is not a problem that can be solved immediately, nor to get up tomorrow and be a completely different person, but to walk on a difficult path, with many obstacles to overcome and situations that will put you to the test.
Be patient, trust the people you love, be persistent and, most importantly, trust your skills, this is fundamental in a task that can be very complicated, that will bring you many tears, anger and disappointment, but you have already begun. on a path of transformation, overcoming and transcendence.
“Between the banks of pain and pleasure flows the river of life. When the mind refuses to sink into life, it gets stuck on the shores and becomes a problem. Does flowing mean acceptance, abandonment of what comes, and abandonment of what you need?Go?. – Sri Nisargadatta Maharj-