Today’s world exposes us to difficult intervention situations, not least because they are mostly out of our control, such as strikes, terrorist threats or climate change, so we need emotional and emotional stimuli to comfort us in an increasingly cold and warm climate. distant environment Do we need caresses?
This is not to say that we need a permanent list of tips on how to manage our feelings and emotions, although it is better to find opportunities to be distracted from daily difficulties and long-term anxieties. Are they important? Opportunities and tips? But they are not enough if we intend to nourish our hearts only with them.
- “More tenderness attracts affection.
- Gradually.
- The hands are delayed.
- They come back.
- They contemplate too.
- ?.
-Jorge Guillén-
In fact, the stimuli that help us stay strong are what make us feel recognized and appreciated. Caresses are, par excellence, the food that the mind needs to grow and be more resistant to problems.
The world of caresses is not only a matter of physical contact (although it is a fundamental part of this universe), it is also composed of words and all those loving gestures that we can present. There are looks and voices that caress you with their warmth There are words that are like a caress for the soul.
In fact, transpersonal psychology understands that caresses can also be “negative. “In this context, the gestures of un sincere recognition and also those of rejection and hostility correspond.
How can these attitudes be caresses? They are because they involve the recognition of the other, even if it is negative. On the opposite side of the world of caresses is total indifference, which means ignorance of the existence of the other: a comparison with the void that drives away the ignored?in the face of the ignored ones of emotions and feelings.
In any case, the caresses capable of nourishing and enriching are what can be called “true caresses”. They are expressions to which even animals are very receptive. These little gestures that make a simple moment special.
The caresses are so important for the human being that a person can even get sick and die if he does not have at least a minimum, especially in the first years of life. Don’t be petted sad at first and then depressed. Press first then mate.
In today’s world there seems to be a gigantic appetite for caresses that is not consciously recognized, this is clearly evident in the use of social media, for example, many people post, not so much to express what they think and feel, but to get the “Likes” of this comfort and validate.
All actions aimed at attracting the attention of others are probably based on a thirst for caresses. It’s a way of shouting “here I am. ” It is a way of asking others to recognize our existence, because in the end, we are still evolved mammals, which we desperately need from others.
Not everyone knows how to caress and we don’t let everyone caress us, in fact, few are sufficiently trained in this particular art, so the question arises: why, if we all need caresses, some people create obstacles. When possible?
The answer is just one: out of fear. It is fear that leads us to erect great barriers in front of others; position ourselves as perfectly autonomous and independent beings, although we yearn to have close ties with others.
The idea that the ideal lies in total independence, in the absence of the conditionings of others, is constantly promoted. The fact is that the idea has cost so much that the mufitos struggle every day to realize this fantasy, as if the struggle to defend independence could be sustained eternally in this gesture of “being against”, typical of teenagers.
But, as the phrase says, they become “oaks that break first, before bending. “While this can be considered a great virtue in some areas, the truth is that the emotional price you pay is very high.
Really strong people were not born of brutal treatment or uncompromising independence, quite the opposite: those who have an environment capable of giving caresses in abundance will have more emotional resources to face adversity, caress and be caressed is a resource that magnifies and makes life. happier.