Raising and, above all, educating children is not an easy task, as it can destroy family ties if activities are not carried out properly, it takes a lot of patience, affection and goodwill to build a healthy and responsible education that helps children develop at best in their capacity and cares about family ties at the same time.
Other skills are also relevant in this task, such as listening to our children, learning to put themselves in place, setting limits, and being able to convey to them that sense of belonging to a single group, which will bring them security and protection, which is the family. Read on to learn how to take care of family ties and build strong bonds!
“After all, a good family must make everything unforgettable. -Mark V. Olsen-
In the family everyone has their own needs, as well as different qualities and abilities, so not all of us express our affection in the same way and do not need to listen so much to those we love, even if it is important to communicate these feelings.
Sometimes it is difficult to constructively criticize not only adults but also children, and we focus solely on pointing out what is wrong, the problem is that something that we can go unnoticed can have important consequences on the self-esteem of others, especially children, thus weakening our family ties.
Therefore, it is important to use some of our communication to express that we love and love our children, as well as to express the importance they have in our lives and in the lives of our families, in this way we will nurture with loving and improving children’s self-esteem.
Empathy is an excellent ally when conflicts occur at home, trying to put yourself in each other’s shoes will not instantly end the discussion, but it will help us to better understand the situation, in addition, it will facilitate the explanation and understanding of the other. The person’s opinion, even if we do not share their point of view, helping to reach agreements that benefit everyone.
“The family offers more emotional flexibility and allows you to get along with other people’s lives. -Bruce Springsteen-
Putting yourself in the shoes of others will facilitate another fundamental element to strengthen family ties: valuing the efforts of others. When we try to change or do something to improve coexistence at home, we do not always succeed at first. When others tell us that know that we are trying and that they appreciate what we are doing, it motivates us to improve even more.
This recognition will act as a reinforcement that will stimulate behaviors that will help us improve family relationships, however, we must not forget that change will be gradual.
Inside, all members have their obligations. In this environment it is important that these obligations are clearly outlined and consistent, but how and when do you start to give responsibility to the little ones ?, here it is important to take into account the age of the children and ask for chord tasks. to his abilities.
As soon as you finish a year, you can start asking for simple tasks that boost your self-esteem, so you can pick up your toys, help transport an object from one place to another, or clean something they have. Also, telling us how much they help us and how important they are to the family will make them feel good.
Just as we have duties, we also have rights that must be respected at home. The problem arises when, when setbacks occur, we waive our rights. Knowing how to favor a good relationship is important, but it is also essential that this does not always happen even with the same person.
“Family is the only thing that meets our needs. -Paul Mccartney-
That is, the rights of some relatives cannot be more respected than those of others, finding a balance in this regard will avoid both unnecessary discussions and misunderstandings and negative emotions that violate family ties.
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