If we look for the words of the famous Petrnio, who said that?You can get married or single, but you’ll regret both of us, whatever we do, we’ll always fail. Or we keep looking for what we don’t do ‘ Do you have? The fact is that, for many people, celibacy is a reality, whether it is chosen or not.
However, our way of being real is often expressed through social behaviors. While we are great actors, our relationships with others describe us exactly as we are to those who know how to interpret.
- In the social world in which we live.
- More and more people opt for celibacy.
- However.
- For some.
- This is not a decision.
- But a reality.
- Because they have not been able to find a partner.
- There are also those who feel indifferent.
- So we can continue with a wide variety of motivations in terms of having a partner or not.
- Which was unthinkable a few years ago.
The fact is that, throughout our lives, we meet people of all kinds, every day the option of being single is more socially accepted, or at least someone who cannot find a partner is not considered excluded from society, as was the case. a long time ago.
Therefore, the psychologist and sociologist Arturo Torres has embarked on the difficult way to make a selection of the types of singles that exist, however, its classification is informal, but it is interesting to take a look who knows?Maybe you’ll see a reflection of your social reality.
Torres starts by talking about independent singles. These are the people who enjoy their lives without the obligations they feel they would suffer if they had a partner, for these people their time and space are very important, so they avoid intense commitments because they consider them limiting.
This segment includes people whose mind does not even think about having a partner, are fully autonomous and require a high degree of isolation, their natural state is solitary, but not in negative terms, they simply have no interest in sharing their world with them. Other.
In this case, Torres refers to singles who, being independent and self-sufficient, would prefer to have a partner, so they do not feel isolated, but want to share and give up their solitary life, sometimes this happens for lack. social custom or because of their low qualification to learn new habits.
“The bachelor is the tiger that keeps scraping the numbers 8 on the company floor. Doesn’t he back up or forward?-Ramón López Velarde-
In this group, the psychologist presents people who are thirsty for relationship but fail to seek it, perhaps because of their low self-esteem, customs or lack of social skills, they are not considered able to be attractive. It is possible to work with these people to improve their thoughts, because they feel unhappy and rejected: they find themselves in a situation they do not want to be in, but they condemn themselves.
A fifth group consists of existential singles. They are characterized by their pessimism, so they do not believe in romantic relationships. They usually have a very cold and dispassionate world view, so they often die of intimate emotions.
Torres creates another group, which he calls ideological bachelors, is rare and includes people who draw their own lines to get to know each other, so they tend to systematically reject most candidates, people who can be considered very demanding, but if taken to the extreme, can cause situations of anxiety and excessive pressure.
Here we meet singles who are looking for a relationship, they clearly know that they want to be with someone in the short or long term, so they look at the possibilities and try to analyze the candidates, as a result, their condition is in transition. : they’ve finished a relationship and they’ll probably start a new one soon.
Finally, Arturo Torres talks about being single when he learns, they are people who are fleeing from a relationship because their previous experiences were negative, so most of these people develop a speech in which their memories are recorded and in which they reflect what which, for them, are the causes of their current situation. The traumatic memory generates in them an almost irrational rejection of any relationship, which can lead to philophobia (phobia or irrational fear of falling in love).
“Singles are men who have married. And in most cases, is it a wonderful marriage?. ?Miguel Mihura
We live in a world where we usually label everything to understand, so it is not strange that we identify celibacy according to its specific conditions and details, so, although it is an informal classification, it seems to be a very complex work. So, if we look back or look at our current situation, we may find ourselves reflected in one or more groups. What’s wrong with you?
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