We generally understand celibacy as a sentimental failure and therefore a vital disaster, this is the reality, even if it seems harsh: our society punishes singles, proof of this is that there are no commercial products dedicated to people who decide to follow the path of celibacy.
It’s easy to find hundreds of dream travel deals together, gourmet dinners for two, ideal gifts for your boyfriend, etc. However, I have not yet seen any products that apologize for celibacy.
- Because being single is usually a decision.
- That is.
- As absurd as it may seem to many people.
- Not everyone is looking for a partner.
- In fact celibacy induces a state of fullness and freedom that is also healthy and desirable.
We have no obligation to be available for a romantic relationship and, according to Emma Morano, being clear is the key to your longevity, this woman is the oldest person in the world because she is no more than 116 years old.
When the New York Times asked her about her secret, she responded to something that surprised everyone: “The key to my longevity is to keep me single. “Shortly after the end of an unhappy marriage in 1938, Emma Morano decided that she no longer wanted to be dominated by anyone and that, in fact, everything she needed was in herself.
This woman made her life what she really wanted and didn’t care what society expected of her as an adult woman.
However, as geriatricists claim, there is no key to ensuring longevity, in fact, if you talk to 100 centenaries, you will find 100 different stories, so living more or less years is largely determined by the genetic factor.
Happiness and emotional well-being must come from ourselves and from the choices we make about our love life. When someone decides to be single, they also decide to be brave and tolerant, as they will encounter a great diversity of opinions or beliefs along the way.
As we have said, society punishes celibacy and reduces certain possibilities. For example, it’s harder to get a bank credit if you’re not married. Examples like these exist and become invisible stab wounds that send a clear message: “Being single. “it’s not good. “
Second, celibacy ceases to be a state or a personal decision to become a social problem that marks and emphasizes. “Something’s wrong with you, ” do you need to find a partner?” I’m not surprised you don’t like anyone. . “
These “subtle” stab wounds can hurt and thereby make the person want to have a partner who does not want to, in fact, or live their life in a way they do not want. In some ways, social culture seeks to encourage singles?to get a pair and lead a full life.
But no, celibacy should always be a personal choice with other options that allow you to explore a new world and different from the default world, ideally we should all be free to say what drives us to live and what we want to do, without finding the social pressure that says being single is not good. There are people who, like Emma, decide to be happy in their celibacy and do not seek or expect anyone to save them from this state.
Deciding to be single is not synonymous with madness, but freedom and autonomy to lead emotional life as desired.