She is gentle, submissive and leaves all the decisions she has to make in the hands of her partner, not only the most important, but also the most insignificant, such as foods that should be included in the shopping list. companion your guide, someone you follow without hesitation and without planning anything. This is the reality of a chameleon personality.
Those who have a chameleon personality conceive of relationships unequally: someone submits, someone orders. So whoever likes this personality feels lost when he’s with a couple who say “I want to know what you think” or “it can’t be that we think the same thing, you have to have your own opinion. “
- Today.
- Through Samanta’s story.
- We will discover what life is like for a chameleon personality couple.
- Let’s see what benefits a person can get.
- But also how he loses.
From a young age Samanta was always very indecisive, so much so that he found himself in the position of being with two men he loved, not being able to choose between one of them, however, something caught his attention. managed to be a different person depending on who he was with.
André, his lover, was a fan of football and risk sports, so Samanta became a football lover and an adrenaline lover. Richard, your husband, was a serious and elegant lawyer? Samanta behaved with the same elegance and impeccable manners.
Although Samanta was baffled by her own transformation, she felt unable to end her relationship with her lover or husband; however, one day everything changed. Samanta caught Richard on the spot with a woman totally opposed to her and therefore himself. It was great and lively.
Broken, fear invades him. She did not end the relationship, but stopped behaving with Richard as she had done until now, she became passionate, daring, to try to offer her what she was looking for, with this change of attitude Ricardo began to suspect a possible infidelity. On the contrary, with André he began to behave more correctly, seeking stability, something more serious. André got bored of his new personality and his new way of behaving and began dating other women.
Samanta has chosen the only strategy she has always been able to put in place to make her relationships work, however, in this case, her chameleon personality betrayed her, her world had changed, so she changed the roles she played in her two relationships to achieve a new success, but it didn’t work.
Samanta was left alone. He had adapted to the personality of his partners, but after the events and his change, totally unhappy, the two relationships ended. Samanta didn’t understand what happened. His sudden change in attitude caused the disaster of the two relationships he had.
As we’ve seen in Samanta’s story, who has a chameleon personality always adapts to their partner’s lifestyle, to their tastes?, definitely hides who the other is really expecting, however, there are pros and cons in this.
The advantage of the chameleon personality is that the person can have a partner with which to share absolutely everything, do the same activities, think the same and behave perfectly, in addition to leaving all decisions in the hands of the couple, the relationship seems to work perfectly, in harmony.
The disadvantage of the chameleon personality is that it will always tend to please and subdue another person, you will never have initiative and, besides, you will always agree with everything, this type of personality can end up exhausting the relationship and the couple. You may get tired of this attitude, because if the person thinks the same thing, if they don’t take the initiative, if they don’t seem to have different tastes, the relationship may lose charm.
The personality of the chameleon is so adaptable that it completely eliminates the effects of surprise on a relationship.
A couple doesn’t have to have the same tastes, or feel attractive for the same activities, let alone change the way they are for each other, the more we are ourselves, the better the relationship. Also, if we are not compatible, no problem, it is better to realize it on time than too late.
Anyone with a chameleon personality seems to want to find a person equal to all costs, finish or be without a partner causes them a great fear, so they are molded, however, as we have seen, ends up condemning the relationship.
Naturalness, being yourself and having good self-esteem are very important both personally and relationally, if we do not know how to protect our personality and sell it to the best imposter, we may have a problem of insecurity.