Why are we so resistant to change if life is made of them? Change is the only constant, the safest we have in the universe. Today we are not the same person as yesterday, but neither tomorrow, no matter what we try.
A cluster of circumstances manages to do so, even if we don’t realize it, so we have to break the fear of change, there are better ways of life than the infinite resistance to the new, now, why do we sometimes think that the time spent was better?
- Idealizing the past is one of our habits.
- The result of a tendency to forget the negative and select only positive memories.
- So we remember much better the happy experiences of childhood.
- In addition.
- If we are in a moment of concern and despair.
- It is likely that.
- When comparing it with previous times.
- We consider that everything lived has been easier than what happens to us.
Memory is unreliable because it constantly changes, in fact, memories have a sensitive period during which they can be changed in relation to new events, so we continue to smooth everything that is lived as a rule and store to compare every time something happens to it. We.
Given the above, it will not be strange to think that our brain is prefabricated so that changes frighten us, whether good or bad, that is, the brain likes to save itself and feel safe, so a change involves leaving. How can we be open to changes in this situation?
On the other hand, the excess adrenaline we generate to cope with any change can cause the brain to confuse you with feelings similar to mistrust or danger, although in reality this activation helps us to better face new situations. Therefore, all changes, even the most anxious ones, cause some melancholy.
“No one bathes twice in the same river, because everything changes in the river in which you bathe. ” – Her-clito de Ephesus-
The writer, poet and philosopher Henry David Thoreau made a very precise statement: things do not change, we change, the flow of life affects us and transforms us in a certain way, the sooner we accept, the better, because we will be able to manage the changes, in this way we will not be trapped in the past, but in the illusions of the future, but we will consciously live the present.
Because we’re not the same as last year, nor are the people we love. However, it is extraordinary that when we change, we can continue to love those who do, as well as ourselves.
“Every day I look in the mirror and ask myself, “If today was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I’m going to do today?”If the answer is ” isn’t it?” For several days in a row, do I know I need to change anything?. – Steve Jobs-
Mental health depends on a person’s ability to evolve and adapt to their situation, remaining strictly anchored to primitive patterns and patterns will only serve to accumulate anxiety, so we should not resist learning from experience and changing with it.
Everything someone resists persists. The freedom of the mind finds resistance that sometimes opposes fear of the unknown.
Avoiding change intrinsically shows that we want to be in a comfortable place for us, where we don’t have to face our fears, so changing requires dealing with uncertainty and knowing that when we do, we will feel anxious and insecure.
On the other hand, resistance to change can make the person not responsible for the problems and prefer to avoid them or look for the causes behind them, blaming others for their mistakes, obviously it is much easier, but it is not the most satisfactory thing. or what drives us to move on.
“When circumstances change, I change my mind, what to do??-John Maynard Keynes-