Sooner or later, we do this: we realize that true intelligence is in adapting to changes with head up and eyes awake, at the end of the day there is nothing left of what comes and nothing that disappears is completely lost. Resisting change is what hurts, and assuming them, is to understand that there would be no butterflies unchanged.
There is a curious fact of the changes: our species has reached where it is thanks to them and the evolutionary progress that these small innovations have given us, however, the brain prefers permanence, stability and a comfort zone where there is no danger and where our survival is protected. But in this area of calm and security where nothing new happens, dissatisfaction and boredom inevitably arise.
- Charles Darwin himself says in his works: the one who survives this complex and sometimes menacing world is not the strongest.
- Nor the smartest.
- But the one who best adapts to change.
- However.
- No one taught us to do this.
- We were not taught to be brave when someone leaves us.
- We do not have a manual on how to deal with the passage of time.
- Nor do they have us.
- He said what skills we need to transform that feeling that sometimes our existence needs to be a little happier.
Sometimes, as David Bowie explained in his song “Changes”, there’s no choice but to turn around and face the unknown, is that it?That we’ve waited so long living the wrong life.
We’ll think about it a little bit next
When we talk about changes in women we think almost instantly of moving from childhood to youth to adulthood, where the hormonal revolution takes us into a complex universe of cycles, phases and steps to face new challenges and new learnings. Let’s set aside these physical or hormonal dimensions to focus on what really matters: emotional changes and the development of new attitudes.
Bowie said in his song, “I don’t know yet?I still don’t know what I expected, or do I still not know what I expected, a common and persistent feeling of a good time in our lives. , until all of a sudden we decided to leave the wait to act. It may sound curious, but in women’s personal growth and the real quest for change is not done at 40, it starts at this point, but peaks at 50.
This is how Rosi Braidotti, professor of Philosophy and director of the Center for Humanities at the University of Utrecht, explains it. Fifty myths make their debut in today’s society. They are women who have encountered difficulties and are taking another step towards a new reality. fullness of life, they do so through the achievement of renewed goals, greater personal security and the knowledge that a divorce is not the end of the world and that the empty nest is not a cause of depression either.
Changes are new opportunities that we must face without fear, routes that have not been explored to continue browsing the sound of life itself.
Not all changes are traumatic or do not mean the end of a stage, most are a simple continuity, a breakthrough in perfect harmony with our process of personal growth, however, and here is the controversial aspect, not everyone is willing to see. this need to move forward, to take this courageous step that puts us beyond the barriers of our comfort zone.
Thanks to an interesting study conducted at the Harvard Decision Science Laboratory, it was shown that when making a change, our brain launches three types of very specific emotions that need to be analyzed, understood, but not avoided. We have to live them to channel them to facilitate progress.
Let’s look at this in detail
Allowing yourself to feel a strong emotion from time to time is not a negative thing, anger, for example, can act as a great motivator, as it reveals the current discomfort with all its rawness.
Similarly, anger or anger can give us a sense of control when it comes to motivating us to take risks and initiate change.
We know it may be a little contradictory to think that after anger passion can resurface, but let’s consider these details to understand this:
When we have turned on the machine of change and nurtured it with passion and expectation, we must not fall into false pride, in this mirror where we think every day to tell us that everything will be fine.
Changes require will and inspiration, but they also require us to always stay north of the compasses of our lives so as not to stray, so as to always maintain a safe, calm and satisfying course in each of our changes.
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