A lot of people say, if you change your mind, you can change your destiny. It sounds good, but how can we do that?The truth is, it’s not that easy; the brain is not like a room where you can, during the night, remove some furniture and place others.
Our entire psychological universe is extremely resilient. Turning negative thoughts into positives is not something that works quickly. Mental patterns are deep, rigid and very unlikely to transform spontaneously, no matter what we want. All of this requires a lot of work on our part, a delicate ability to break patterns and disable mental approaches.
- On the other hand.
- There is one thing that must first be understood: thoughts.
- On their own.
- Have no power over us.
- Actually.
- They’re just ephemeral mental experiences that come and go.
- However.
- Sometimes we tend to reinforce each other.
- We give relevance to a series of ideas that do not always benefit us.
- This is how anxiety and depression are born.
To think well is to live well. Learning to do so means moving towards a remarkable change in our immediate reality, through which we can finally live what we so desire: well-being.
It was Frédéric Charles Bartlett, professor of experimental psychology at the University of Cambridge, who, around 1920, spoke for the first time about the patterns of the mind and something that would be decisive in therapy: thought and memory can be reconstructed. part of what was later defined as the “cognitive revolution,” a psychological approach focused on a person’s mental processes.
Subsequently, techniques as decisive as cognitive restructuring will arrive, a therapeutic process in which negative and irrational thoughts (cognitive distortions) must be identified and confronted, it is a way of replacing these beliefs that subordinate us to suffering with others that are more rational, that allow us to reach our full potential.
However, as we pointed out at the beginning, this journey of transformation is not easy, you cannot change your thoughts from week to week, the human mind is stubborn, it is not easy to convince him to interpret certain things differently. , so you can see the pleasurable side of life and not this setback where only anxiety and negativity are contained.
Similarly, you can’t ignore a fact either: emotion and thinking always go hand in hand, feed, it’s very difficult to count in the mind, look at things differently and think of new solutions?are trapped in fear, anguish or sadness What can we do in these cases?
The mind allows thoughts to be out of the way. It’s like a torrent of water flowing at full speed, we’re not always aware of what’s going on in us, it’s like trying to put water in our hands.
The strategy you need to follow to change your thoughts is to detect, first of all, exactly what needs to be transformed, that is, you must become a hunter of negative and irrational ideas that pollute the ocean of your psychic universe. To do this, it is better to relax, calm the mind, carry a notebook and describe those thoughts that bother us.
Once these negative thoughts are detected, they must be brought before the “court”. What does that mean? That we will dialogue with us to pass these ideas through a filter, where we will ask, “Does this thought have anything?, that is, “Is it useful?”If it makes me suffer, why do I strengthen him?
The last stage is the most decisive and also the most exciting, this is where our commitment and responsibility to ourselves increases, after all, the process of change of thought forces you to face face to face to discover why you have been sabotaging. for so long.
It’s about realizing that you’ve cultivated approaches designed to lower your self-esteem and limit the vital opportunities that would have allowed you to be a little happier. However, it’s always time to change.
The final step in this task is to reformulate these old and harmful ideas into cleaner, more optimistic, realistic and useful ideas. Negativity must be disinfected to give way to hope. You have to change your concentration to see that with this variation, the world changes. And you change too.
Because you feel freer, more confident to make new and better decisions, so don’t hesitate to learn to think better to live as we deserve.