Chaos is one of the great allies of narcissists, without this state of widespread disorder, a narcissist cannot rule as he pleases, consciously or unconsciously, if there is order, he is nobody. Nor can he part with the dramas he’s so used to.
Let us remember that narcissism is characterized by the excessive exaltation of oneself, this is not a sign of much self-love, but an excess of expectations of oneself, a fantasy of greatness about oneself. I want to stand out or be above others.
- “We must organize chaos.
- I have no doubt that the best and fastest method is to apply the law of the people instead of the law of the masses.
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A dose of narcissism is healthy in an adult. It helps the individual to be coherent and reaffirm themselves before the world; however, when this pseudo self-love is excessive, it opens itself to pathological narcissism; in more extreme cases, the narcissist is unable to give real value to people. become instruments that serve only as a means of self-exaltation.
Pathological narcissists implement a series of behaviors designed to satisfy this desire for exaltation, what these behaviors have in common is that they sow more or less chaos, is it in the disorder that they can be someone?And keep the others under control.
Chaos is the hallmark of bosses or leaders who give orders and counterorders at all times, it is the seal of those who implement absurd measures that, instead of facilitating activities, numb them, are those who do not communicate clearly and give rise to confusions that, if they get a good result, allow them to claim credit; and if they lead to mistakes, they are allowed to blame others.
Narcissists also promote chaos in more everyday or family situations, correspond to those friends, family or couples who say one thing, but do another for no apparent reason, say they will help you and when you need it most, they disappear. They guarantee that they will arrive at a certain time and appear at another time, play with your expectations and take your balance Sow chaos and thus guarantee a margin of control over the other.
In the case of pathological narcissists, chaos is often accompanied by drama, the boss or leader mentioned above accompanies his disorder with expressions of outrage and concern, feels remorseful or hysterically surprised by everything that is happening, as if it was not him who has done it. drove everything in this direction, towards uncertain results.
Therefore, it is unlikely that the person who does not show up for a date will apologize, on the contrary, it will create a drama. It is very common for pathological narcissists to become victims.
The thing is, they basically create situations that allow them to feel responsible for the world, they try to be at the center of everything, but they don’t take responsibility for their actions, in return they create stages to make a show. intense emotional expressions.
One way or another, narcissists use chaos to psychologically break others, they plan situations, mostly unconsciously, for others to fill with anxiety, to drive them a little crazy. If they succeed, they also realize what they really want most: to be decisive in the lives of others, either in the wrong way or by tricks.
However, there is always a face and crown in these kinds of psychological realities; in the face, the narcissist sows chaos and manipulates others; in the crown is the same narcissistic victim of his own pathology; narcissists are more likely to feel unenchanted alive and bored of reality. Simply put, they are more prone to depression.
This is due to the lack of authenticity of their actions. They are, so to speak, trapped in themselves. They cannot establish deep and constructive connections with others and are overly dependent on others.
If they manage to manipulate others, they are satisfied with the image of themselves that they so desire; if they fail, they experience feelings of inferiority, disinterest in life, and frustration.