The most unique thing about childhood is that, as small as we are, we do not need to understand a situation to feel its impact, to suffer, to be perplexed and frightened, age does not save us suffering.
Once grown, reason already gives us the ability to understand everything that has happened in the past, the wounds have already affected our hearts and put memory in our minds.
- Suffering abuse.
- Growing up without our father or mother.
- Losing someone.
- Living in a deconstructed home.
- Are realities that hurt our childhood.
- Sometimes settling within us in the form of trauma.
- This happens to the point of dressing up in the Armor of Mistrust.
- Preventing us from being able to open ourselves to other people to build lasting relationships.
- Dyeing our happiness with the echo of those childhood days in which we could not establish bonds of sincere affection and personal safety.
A difficult past must not prevent us from reaching a full present, happiness does not require penance and we can and must know how to manage our lives to live it optimally and maturely, hence the term resilience, which is nothing more than this important. virtue that we must continue to project our future, despite destabilizing conditions, difficulties and traumas.
But how do you do that, how do we deal with everything that’s happened, how can we put aside all those scars from our childhood that only we can see?
? DEVELOP A HEALTHY CONCEPT OF YOURSELF
Don’t feel responsible for what happened in the past, seek forgiveness as much as possible and also accept what happened, it’s always complicated, but it’s a process that will help us loosen ties, it’s not a matter of justifying, it’s about accepting. We must consider ourselves beings capable of moving forward in our lives, of believing that we are strong and that we have enough skills to face day by day, we deserve to be happy, and the fragility of our childhood is a motivating factor in reaching strength in our maturity.
? PROBLEM SOLVING STRATEGIES
Our daily lives will betray us, no doubt. Situations in which memories will always arise, where insecurity will make us believe that we are not able to face something, hence the need to learn problem-solving techniques, know how to set priorities, set goals, acquire communicative skills and self-affirmation skills?
? BUILD YOUR SELF-ESTEEM
Learn to value yourself, to consider your potential and your skills, you are capable of much more than you surely think and the last thing you have to do is compare yourself to others or tell yourself that you are not capable. Get up every day safely enough to face any difficulties that may arise. If you trust yourself, if you have a well-established image of yourself, your values and your goals, don’t let insecurity get in your way. In the past, but with fragility, you can learn a lot, understand your limitations, and arm yourself with the armor of force to face life.
Because remember, an unhappy childhood doesn’t determine a life, it’s up to you and we all deserve to be happy.