The 1980s have left many masterpieces for remembrance, including the one I bring to you today in the form of a film. We are talking about the feature film “Sons of Silence”, whose original title was “Sons of a Lesser God”. She starred in William Hurt (James) and Marlee Matlin (Sarah) and won an Oscar for Best Actress for her authentic performance.
This film tells the story of a deaf-mute girl who, against all odds, is having an affair with her special education teacher that she ends up falling in love with, a story that invites reflection on everything that we can convey with our body and that represents the truer of our own interior.
- The key scene is the one that takes place in the pool of a beach house.
- Where gestural communication appears between them.
- In this exchange of messages the attraction they feel for each other is made explicit.
- Creating a process of conquest in the that words and verbal communication is not present.
- But in which it is not necessary either.
Often words are not necessary to demonstrate our feelings and affections, we are talking about the manifest power of nonverbal communication, a way to convey messages so powerful that you do not need any voice complement to touch another person’s soul.
Nonverbal communication is less aware than verbal communication, so it is more reliable and more unwise to handle, in addition, keep in mind that with words we generally do not reveal more than 10% of the information we want to transmit.
Returning to the scene of the film, not a word is heard, but there is a passionate conversation in which James asks questions with honest and loyal glances, to which Sarah responds with caresses. It should be noted that there is nothing you can generate. doubts, that there are no second interpretations, that the feeling IS REAL.
The visual system is the one that is most connected to our emotions, we know that, in fact, when we want to hide our own mood, when we don’t want them to read what we’re really talking about, what we’re doing is looking away. Remember that when we want to camouflage an emotion, our gaze is shaking and the eye muscles are not coordinated.
The gaze reveals, does not escape the sight of the other person, naked us and hugs us at the same time, leaving us speechless. With a look you can fall in love, you can seduce, you can make someone feel important, you can get excited. , you can attract a person forever.
When the person we love looks at us very closely, it can cause a particular tingling in the stomach, which would otherwise be very difficult to reach. A close look may be the best refuge you can find, as there you can read an immense understanding; it can also make you feel like the worst stranger in an inhospit world. One way or another, its power is immense.
A timely gaze, accompanied by an unexpected caress, can touch another person’s soul with more intensity than a beautiful word, with one gaze we are able to overcome all kinds of barriers and limits, because through it we can reveal the most real and intimate of our interior.
After that moment, Sarah will still not be able to pronounce “I love you,” but James probably doesn’t need to listen to him either. You probably already know, because Sarah’s gestures, her facial expression or her gaze leave no room for doubt. It is an open message, clear and sincere, transmitted without flourishes.
What this teaches us is how natural it is to show what we feel without the need for words and flattery, it teaches us the truth, a true endless appeal, with great doses of passion, sincerity and truthfulness, teaches us an immense desire to communicate through a silent and at the same time attractive force.
So open your eyes, decorate yourself with your eyes, use your hands and hold this important person firmly, anyway, don’t look down, hide your hands or stretch your face so you don’t smile, love in silence too, and “Do I love you”?It won’t fail because you’ve already said them, and the other person will know.