Once upon a time there was a child who felt at the center of the universe, was all his parents’ attention set on him?And only for him, however, one day the boy received bad news for him: he was going to win a youngest son. brother didn’t find it funny. Fortunately, his parents soon realized that they would have to work with the jealousy of the children with their eldest child as soon as possible, otherwise the problem would get worse.
Unfortunately, after a while, the parents were immersed in the problem and the child’s jealousy was chronicd and even increased, so the child’s relationship with his brother deteriorated and, little by little, the whole family was affected by the situation.
- Does this problem sound familiar to you? In this case.
- We approach the issue as if it were a story.
- However.
- It is a situation that happens more often than we think and is able to generate a lot of suffering.
- And not just by the arrival of a younger brother.
- The reasons for children’s jealousy can be very varied.
So how do we act? Children’s jealousy may or may not be justified, but they exist and are real, so to prevent them from appearing the first thing we can do is start good prevention work, then we must observe the causes, analyze the symptoms and finally, if we have already reached this point, we follow the intervention prescription proposed by the specialist, however , before discussing how to work child jealousy, let’s try to better understand what it is and how it happens.
Jealousy is defined as a subjective state that causes a sense of frustration, is it due to the belief that an individual is not emotionally reciprocal on the part of the people who love him, as is the case with parents, brothers and sisters, partners, even in pets, sometimes the problem is not the lack of concordance, but the fact that the desired or necessary intensity and frequency is not achieved.
Jealousy may not be justified: the child may continue to receive the same care as before, even more so than the brother or sister, but in the minds of the suffering person there is suffering that is real, this may be due to a clinical disorder that requires specialized attention.
For children, the individual may experience feelings of envy and resentment; In any case, it is always a cognitive distortion that can ultimately have future consequences.
It is a very common cause in children, is usually caused by environmental and evolutionary factors and can be relevant, factors can be genetic, which predisposes the child and can have consequences in their adult life in the future.
It depends on the child’s evolution time. Between the age of 2 and 5 is the most critical time for the arrival of a younger brother, because if he is born in the attachment phase, the situation will be especially sensitive.
The educational style of parents or guardians, as well as the family environment of the child at home, also become important factors to consider in the evolution and development of young people and in their reaction to jealousy.
Another key point. It depends on the child’s environment, not just the family environment. Your own experiences, your ability to socialize, your tolerance, your possible emotional deficiencies?Everything influences this case.
Several indicators can show us that we are facing a jealous child, well founded or not, let’s look at the most common ones:
“He who is jealous is never jealous of what he sees, is what he imagines enough?-Jacinto Benavente-
When working with children’s jealousy, there are several strategies that can be helpful:
Working with children’s jealousy is important because, as we said, it remains a source of suffering and a source of erosion in interpersonal relationships.
If the situation becomes uncontrollable, it is positive to seek a professional to make an assessment and, on this basis, determine the best intervention.