If you’ve had a lot of frustrated romantic relationships, you may have come to the conclusion that loving hurts more than it should and more than we deserve. Love gives us a lot of happiness, but if we don’t know how to deal with it. and if we’re not with the right person, it can be hard to love without suffering.
Infidelity, addiction, jealousy . . . all this makes us suffer for love Do we expect too much from a loved one?Why does this happiness suddenly turn into pain?Today I want to choose to love without suffering, but how to do it?
- You certainly never thought about it.
- But what if.
- For some reason.
- We learned to suffer for love? Without knowing it and without wanting it.
- Sometimes we think that we have a totally different and free thought.
- But we are not aware that since we were little we were taught to be who we are.
- If we had been born in another place we would probably have been different.
So what if you were born in a place where a man could have multiple wives, what would be jealousy?Our culture teaches us that love is very beautiful, and without it, it seems that we will not be able to achieve the desired happiness, but this happiness has a number of side effects. You want to know what they are?
These are just a few of the things you have to deal with when you’re in a serious relationship, because, interestingly, when we go out together, we consider our partner our property, we expect a lot from him and anything unexpected (infidelity). ) may disappoint us.
Think? Any relationship is based on trust, but you have to be realistic!Will you be disappointed by many relationships because they will destroy the trust you have placed in them?
Almost everyone has the same vision of what a romantic relationship is, it contains everything that has been mentioned above: that there is no infidelity, that routine can be overcome, etc. but do you want to stop suffering for love? We should be happy in love, but not suffer for it. How can we get rid of this suffering and this love without suffering?
These are just a few of the topics you should consider to stop suffering in love, as this fear is often created by us without any foundation, for example, never let you depend on your partner, it will not make you happy and they do not do everything together. Respect everyone’s friendships, spend time alone. You don’t always have to be together, as it can damage your long-term relationship.
Similarly, some people tend to give everything for the person they love. Be careful with that! Of course, you give everything for your loved one, but are you sure it won’t hurt you?When you love someone, you immediately become vulnerable, if the other person wants them, it will hurt you and you may not even notice. . Unconsciously, you give him the power to destroy you.
It’s nice to love, but often being in a relationship makes us more unhappy than if we were alone. Consider how happy your relationship can be and what you need to change to make the most of it. You don’t deserve to suffer for love.
Is love lived with passion, joy, affection, confidence?Pain is not something that belongs to that word. Why are you trying so hard to suffer for love?
Images courtesy of Pascal Campion and Miho Hirano