Over time, coexistence and everyday relationships, people tend to use certain modes of communication that generate stress and tension and that, in the long run, can end up destroying a loving, friendly relationship or any other relationship that involves mutual respect.
The main challenge is to learn how to identify these communication habits, realize the harm they cause and how they poison a relationship, and then apply a solution.
- It is a gesture that can be interpreted as selfless.
- Although it can actually happen by many other factors.
- The person who produces the speech may feel ignored or neglected.
- In a rebuke.
- If this happens.
- The speech is probably more aggressive and the person who receives it and has turned the gaze will show even more signs of wanting to leave the conversation.
We must not forget that communication is a circle that normally follows the pattern of action and reaction; it is the succession of these actions and reactions that promotes the development of adequate or inappropriate communication habits, so, in therapies, one of the first things we try to achieve when we perceive a negative escalation of communication is precisely to break that circle.
As a result of the above point, it is another gesture that the person giving the speech can interpret as evidence of disinterest on the part of the other person. Good communication ends when, in a way, the people involved put an end to it, not when it is decided to end up alone.
Social skills often play an important role in such situations. It’s just that the person who leaves needs a break to reflect on everything that has been said in the conversation. However, choose the wrong way to request this break; if I had told the other person that he needed rest, he would probably understand it and not come up with a negative interpretation of the situation.
While this may seem like an insignificant act, automatic kissing can ruin and tarnish a relationship when it happens continuously or is the only one. In the context of the couple, kissing is the most powerful manifestation of love, especially when the act of kissing is accompanied by other gestures that transform the act of kissing into a moment of complicity and intimacy. Removing its meaning is losing one of the best forms of union of the couple.
Feelings are unique to all and no one has the right to judge how they feel, let alone minimize or circumvent those feelings.
It doesn’t matter if you consider other people’s feelings to be irrational or absurd; it is not a question of reason, but of acceptance and validation, it is the same thing that one of the people in the conversation thinks, for example, that the other person does not have to be afraid of something. The person is afraid and, if this is ignored or devalued, the conversation will end up being very frustrating, because it will be as if the two speak different languages.
Not acknowledging mistakes and refusing to apologize for defending actions, even if they are false, only makes things worse. Just, when you recognize the mistake, you can say”Sorry?” I am sorry?Honest. In addition, it should not be forgotten that recognition of a failure also brings the possibility for one person to express to another that he is available to understand his feelings.
Sarcasm is a bitter joke, although sometimes it can seem funny, which can confuse and even offend the other. It’s basically disrespectful to the other person, because it involves depreciation or devaluation, sarcasm hurts because it betrays the trust a person places in another.
Meaningless discussions that seek to blame the other lead nowhere. Sometimes it’s like we have a strong desire to chat and grab the first person we know to make a boxing bag. And because we are angry, we often do not measure the strength or meaning with this often happens when we feel bad not really knowing why and argue with someone to justify our feelings.
Starting a meaningless discussion is very dangerous, because the person you’re starting with has little clue to identify our true feelings and it’s not easy to be empathetic. So, in those moments, a pat on the back and a phrase like “I know you’re having a dog day. “This can not only stop a discussion, but can often change throughout the day. The burden won’t be as heavy as it will be, because somehow it will be shared.
Therefore, an effort to improve these bad communication habits can greatly improve not only romantic relationships, but also friendly relationships, with our children, with family. Effort means it won’t be easy and inertia won’t help, but it’s usually worth it. That.