Throughout our lives, we were sold so-called “romantic love” almost regularly. We read about it in several books, pamper it in a thousand and one movies, in hundreds of television series and even through fashion and advertising.
So you could say that “romantic love?Is it some kind of fraud?”Maybe not so much, or maybe not? Despite this, it could be defined more as “unconscious love” because, in a way, it is nothing more than an idealization of emotional relationships. This is where we establish a very intense attachment and mutual dependence that almost never ends well.
- It is not good to idealize love.
- Nor to fantasize about what our ideal partner should be.
- We may never find it if we live by this perfect model we dream of for ourselves.
- Sometimes it is said that “true love does not suddenly come to someone.
- It comes from us.
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That is, the perfect relationship must be built in a “conscious” way, with effort, dedication and emotional maturity.
Let’s talk about “conscious” love. If you’ve never heard this expression, it’s worth delving into it through some traits that will immediately stage these emotional relationships that we want to describe to you:
? Couples who consciously love each other are not considered halves, like half the orange they need to join in to form a single person. Absolutely, they are complete people, who are not afraid of loneliness, they are whole oranges. who freely offer their fullness and emotional maturity to their partner, to be happy with each other.
? People who establish relationships, unconscious, are often immature, turn to others to fill their emotional gaps, to find a balance in their problems, and to establish, in turn, a generally toxic type of attachment. To do this, they have no doubts about manipulation, they establish a subtle blackmail, because, above all, they fear being alone in this immaturity that they have not yet learned to handle.
? However, people who consider themselves complete and who are lucky enough to find equally emotionally mature partners, in turn, are able to create that “conscious” love, where everything flows normally. There are no requirements, there are no gaps to fill, There is only mutual trust and understanding where, in the day to day, true love will be built, not an ideal. The real thing.
Is it possible to establish emotional bonds that really work? Yes of course. Establishing a relationship based on conscious love, first of all, should not start from a need to fill an emotional void, since it is not a question of looking, because when this word is used, it shows a lack, a need.
It’s about waiting, getting caught up in the road where the most important thing is us in the first place. Have more fun, your experiences, your daily life, where you can learn everything, where you can enrich yourself as a person to mature inside. Love will come when it should appear, but don’t try to create an ideal in the search for the perfect person.
To better understand, take note of the following tips
The best thing is that you are not trying to find the perfect person. Start with yourself, first create the person you want to be.
2. Build your emotional balance, build your self-esteem, defend your values.
3. Es important that you learn to be alone; He understands that loneliness is neither harmful nor dangerous. Don’t try to be with anyone just because you’re afraid.
4. Never lose your imagination and innocence when new relationships begin. Don’t be afraid to make the same mistakes you’ve made in the past; you’ve learned a lot from these mistakes and you know very well what you need now.
5. We know that, in a way, we have an ideal of how we want to be our perfect match, it is something that no one can avoid. However, if it’s clear, are you the person you want to have by your side?After all, the right person will be reflected in you.
6. Finally, always keep in mind one aspect: you deserve to be fully loved, never hesitate.
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