The loss of a missing person is accompanied by a huge void. A void so great that it makes you rethink your goals and the meaning of your life, after a loss there is usually a duel, but what happens when this pain is very strong and comes and goes?The pain of not knowing what happened to him, a missing person has a big impact on his loved ones, that’s what we talked about in this article.
For one thing, bereavement is a set of phenomena that occur after a loss, are issues that go beyond the psychological and encompass the physical, the anthropological, the economic, the social and the spiritual, is it a loss, deprivation or lack of people?, mental things or representations that trigger emotional, cognitive and behavioral reactions?(Tzzon, 2013).
“Death is life lived. -Jorge Luis Borges-
It’s a sudden and unexpected separation from someone you love. There are several reasons why it may disappear. This has a big impact, because people close to you are persecuted by silence and lack of information.
Often, after a person’s disappearance, his family tries to follow in his footsteps to gather information; however, the situation may be out of the law and it may not be possible to discover the truth; in some cases, prosecute it without the support of the police. It can be dangerous.
When a person disappears, it is difficult to know if they are alive or not, this situation makes the grieving process difficult. One of the most frequently asked questions when lamenting about a missing person is: how do you accept the loss of a loved one when you are not sure you are gone?
Grief for a missing person is a suspended pain, because sometimes you stop him every time you find hope of finding your loved one, it’s like seeing a light in the middle of a storm that tells you not to give up, that person will come back.
It is therefore intermittent, suspended or paused pain thanks to the anxiety that separates you and, at the same time, so close to the loved one. It’s still hard because he’s here, suspended. It also causes deep stress and anxiety, which sometimes doesn’t seem to go away.
In the duel for a missing person prevails the feeling of uncertainty, especially when the disappearance is enforced, which generates great pain, of those that you cannot define because you run out of words. because the loss is very different from the others.
How do you accept the loss of someone who can’t come back, what words can be used to describe this immense pain?How do we move forward with this great void?
We spend many times in life. Some are the natural result of a change in our life cycle, others can come from situations that we never imagine could happen to us. The truth is that facing them is an overwhelming challenge. Even when it comes to crying to a missing person, there are ways to do it. to fix it.
According to subject matter expert Jorge L. Tzion (2004), grief consists of “psychological processes in favor of accepting the new internal and external reality of the individual”.
This theory suggests that there are several steps to the development of bereavement. What happens when you cry to a missing person is that the situation is so different that you can’t always follow the “normal” process.
When the grieving person has the remains of his loved one, he often begins to accept his death; however, when it comes to a missing person, the grieving person doesn’t have that, he just has uncertainty. guilty if you choose to assume a death you can’t be sure of. In addition, you may even feel that you are killing a loved one by doing so.
The relatives of the missing person insist that he be considered as if he were alive, so says Ramarez Guerrero y Salvador in his article published in the International Journal of Good Conscience in 2014, a situation that prevents them from overcoming grief.
So how do we solve this pain? It’s hard to put words into something that generates a lot of anxiety, yet you can try other means, like art, with it you can convey information in a different way, so that your unconscious is released. allows you to progress little by little and realize what’s going on. You’ll use symbols and then put them into words.
In addition, you can count on resilience, which is to overcome what afflicts you, for this you have to make sense of your life. You don’t have to stop loving or missing that missing person. Here and now? And go on your way; It will be less painful In addition, you can seek psychological help.
Grief for a missing person is not a simple matter, it is a pain that is difficult to describe in words. However, you can name it when it is created, the elaboration is to accept loss, not to give up your memories and experiences, resilience is one of the weapons of confrontation, while art is a great mobilizer that builds bridges that give meaning to life. pain and pain.