We spend the day surrounded by people, both physically and virtually at work, at home, at leisure?The truth is that it’s rare for us to do activities on our own, whether it’s going to the movies, having a coffee or taking a walk, and when we’re alone, we don’t take long to get our smartphones back and have a look. the latest news or knowledge updates.
Fellowship is necessary and relationships are what gives meaning to life, but the problem arises when we spend so much time together that we can no longer be alone. Are we bored, disturbed, nervous? And we have to go to the company.
- Loneliness.
- In its right measure.
- Performs functions that are very beneficial to people.
- Not only is it necessary a certain degree of loneliness to carry out certain activities.
- But it can also improve our social relationships.
- Since it gives us a mental space to disconnect from others.
- And connect with ourselves.
When we spend every hour of the day in contact with others, whether physically or virtually, we are constantly exposed to the thoughts, judgments, and expectations of others. It is not negative; the human being is a social being and we must know and integrate into the environment, but the truth is that we must also rediscover ourselves.
Moments of solitude allow us to reflect on the social environments in which we are embedded, the opinions of others, trends, what society expects of us, etc. , and we need these moments of solitude to know our true opinion in relation to the group. , without the pressure that can sometimes impose an outside look.
Another thing that usually happens when we spend all our time accompanied is that we move from one activity to another and, if under certain circumstances we find ourselves without a plan, for example, on a Saturday night, we may feel bad because it no longer remembers what it is like to be well in solitude.
Having moments for us from time to time allows us to explore our particular forms of leisure, can we watch movies or series that we only love, read books, write, walk around the city, cook, take a relaxing bath?the number of options is infinite.
Spending your free time with yourself is a way to take care of yourself and send the message that you are independent; In addition, in these activities we can propose ideas and recommendations that we can then share with others.
Only in solitude can we reflect on our lives, our values and our projects, our virtues and our faults. Loneliness is the space for introspection, to think about ourselves and our relationships, and to find a way to improve. Without moments of reflection, we would never know where we are and where we want to go.
Moreover, social life is full of conflicts, because conflicts are an indispensable element of human relations, it is important to talk to others to know the point of view of others and not to get lost in our own thoughts, but it is also important to have moments of reflection in solitude, when we can think honestly about how we act in these cases and how we can solve them.
“Loneliness is the empire of conscience. “
-Gustavo Adolfo Becquer-
There are activities that can only be done as a group, and others that can only be done alone, creative activities usually fall into the latter category Write, paint, sew, cook?There are millions of ways to develop this part of our brain related to intuition and art.
We often spend so much time immersed in essential issues, such as work and other responsibilities, that we forget to look for a moment to develop this other, more creative part of life, which generates so much well-being once we are immersed in it.
Balance is at an intermediate point. Excessive loneliness can isolate us and even induce us to feelings of depression, but not knowing how to be in solitude can make us forget who we really are and let us know, if necessary, spend time alone, to take care of ourselves. . and have fun with our own company.
How do you do that?