Do it. Install a trash can in your mind to take with one click everything that is no longer valid for you, including people who dare to erase your smile. After seeing this image, become aware of the relief that something like this can offer you. -love and a few drops of courage to put into practice.
We know it’s not easy. Although I live at a time when many relationships end with this one?Remove from my friends? From our social networks, in real life there are much deeper and more delicate processes where we cannot always update our relationships as someone who cleans up their profile.
- Most complicated of all.
- Many of us share life scenarios with certain characters that are not harmful (what would we commonly call?Bad people?).
- They end up exhausting us.
- They do so because their emotional burden suffocates us and leaves us exhausted.
- Because the virus of moodiness.
- Negativism or defeatism end up trapping us to completely erase our positive “aura”.
- The one we have so hard to keep.
It’s not easy to cut some ties overnight. Family members, fellas? They are figures rooted in our present because they are part of a daily dynamic, however, we can end the impact that their behavior and personality has on us.
To do this, nothing better than giving one?Delete? Slightly. Far from eliminating them, it’s more about spreading some of their strength about our reality.
Tony Schwartz is a famous journalist who gained notoriety by writing for Donald Trump one of the most successful books about the ideal of triumph. The art of trading? It was released as an alleged biography of a successful businessman who is now president of the United States.
The book was released more than 30 years ago, but unknowingly, its pages have helped create a myth that now, three decades later, laments. Today, Schwartz runs a company called? The Energy Project ?, who advises any organization on how to create respectful work environments, where harmony prevails so that human capital offers the best of itself.
As he explains through his work, in most work environments there is what is called the “rotten apple”. People who, by their attitude, gradually erode the dynamism and productivity of the whole structure. They spread concerns, erase motivations, sharpen tensions and sow anxiety among colleagues in a subtle but persistent way. Of course, these kinds of people from our close realities are often fundamental.
Meanwhile, American tycoon Donald Trump came to say with a solemn smile that only a person with leadership and bargaining power has the right to hold the presidency. In turn, Tony Schwartz, repentant for this book, launched a campaign to remember how the most productive and respectful scenarios are created.
If you have one? As a colleague is already frustrating and dangerous, having a leader with these characteristics can be deadly.
Friends exist to brighten our lives, to fill our day to day with powerful meanings and emotional anchors, if what they do is abuse, they are not friends, family exists to help us grow, to allow us to connect with society safely and feel If what they do is the other way around, this family is not authentic.
On the other hand, employees, management and human resources must take advantage of us in order to fight for a goal: to succeed as an organization. If it’s not done either, it’s not a good job.
Our smiles fade in these same scenarios so together in different ways and at different times in our lives, for this universal gesture is nothing more than a reflection of an inner well-being where personal security, a sense of competence and the awareness of being loved, respected and valued are harmonized.
John E Steinbeck said sadness in the soul can kill us faster than bacteria. Losing a smile is the first symptom. A bad father, a false friend, a bad boss, a bad leader, not only erase our joys and motivations, but also change our emotional burden.
We have to see this interaction as a virus, like the rotten apples we talked about earlier, that when they arrive they increase their discomfort by infesting everyone with their bad mood, their stupidity, their lack of tact, so we have to assume it. that the world is full of similar types, with a more or less harmful burden.
We have to assert ourselves. In addition, you have to understand that you do not like those who have hurt you, that those who violate you do not respect you, set limits and distance yourself is essential. However, it is even more crucial to find the antidote: to surround yourself with good people, to spend as much time as possible with these special characters who bring us light, inspiration, courage and an authentic love that heals everything.
Because it’s the cure for all evils
Images courtesy of Kiyo Murakami, Vladimir Kush.