We are constantly making decisions, large or small, fair or risky, deciding not to act, even, it is also a decision that has its consequences, in deciding to exercise our maximum right: free will, which no one can take away from us. of us, even in the most terrible circumstances, because always, however limited the alternatives may be, we have room for decision.
Our beliefs, values, attitudes and abilities, and even our self-esteem are reflected in our decisions, through them we become the creators of our living conditions, the craftsmen of our destiny, in our hands are some of the possibilities of becoming what we really want to be, or become a bad version of ourselves.
- There are decisions that are easy to make.
- While others can make us sleep.
- Either because we have so many opinions and do not know which ones to follow.
- Or because we anticipate the possible consequences.
- Of these.
When making difficult decisions it is essential to know what you really want, what generates a process and research itself, which seems so easy, in fact, it is not, because it means having the courage and honesty to silence so many voices. Deceptions that do not reflect our essence, but that are the product of a conditioning that has occurred throughout our lives.
When silence finally settles in us and we hear our hearts, what enters can frighten us, because it can mean that we must get rid of structures that until then were our basis and security, such as: career, friendships, relationships, a marriage?this may involve the need to seek the approval of others and meet the expectations of others, or to seek material safety and also to avoid risks or criticisms, but it is worth trying our luck, facing our fears and following our intuition, because the inevitable mistakes along the way can be corrected. On the other hand, self-conviction and mediocre life are always a sad destination.
To help you navigate this dark sea of decision-making, we offer you the following guide, which will help you step by step until you reach your haven of peace:
1. Make the decision you want to make by writing a description as accurate and concise as possible. You can create an image composition of what you want to achieve. This can be inspiring and help you visualize your goal more clearly.
2. Identify the problem or need that makes the decision difficult, write down your concerns about it and the factors that hinder it.
3. Look at a goal you want to achieve by noting the possible consequences of the decision and what you want to achieve with it. Consider what’s really important to you and what you’re willing to give up, considering your values.
4. Identify resources that can help you make the decision, such as individuals or organizations that can help you, whether it’s providing information, preparation, empathy, or good advice.
5. Explore other options, other decisions you can make, or other things you can make. Make a list to see the situation from different angles, which can provide valuable information. Add even those crazy ideas to that list, which aren’t convincing now, but how long will they do it?
6. Examine the alternatives, highlighting the positive and negative consequences of each.
7. Make the decision by choosing the option that best suits your needs.
8. Decide what action you will take based on the decision made
9. Evaluate your decision by looking at what you think.
Clearly, decision-making is a complex process, because of all the factors involved and because no one is teaching us how to do it but applying these tips and connecting with your inner source of wisdom and inspiration, you can get the best reward. . ? Make your dreams come true.
Image courtesy of Pablo Fernandez