Some people need to hurt themselves to feel better about themselves. Behind seemingly inoquent comments, there is often a kind of poison that aims to immobilize and destroy the victim. A silent destruction that shows discretion, sometimes “admirable. “
They are people who feel happy when they see the other as destabilized, as a person inferior to them, and who try to create such situations when they interact with others, do so consciously or unconsciously and use all kinds of weapons: from the most shocking and obvious to those that go unnoticed.
- Think about it.
- Free comments you’ve probably heard in some situations.
- You may be able to easily identify them when it comes to someone’s physical appearance.
- How is this outfit different?” You have a slightly eccentric taste.
- Don’t you?”Why are you using this?.
“What’s the problem if my clothes are different or not?”Well, is that your opinion?” I use it because I love it, otherwise I wouldn’t use it, just like you when you dress. “the answers that common sense and self-respect would give us. But there are people who are weakening and allowing this gratification to reduce their self-esteem.
Think about it: what’s behind these “harmless” comments?What is the intention behind them?For what? That’s the most honest question you can ask why do I have to make these comments?Each person is different and has their own tastes and ways of living their life, taking care of their appearance.
If you don’t like it or wouldn’t do the same, that’s fine. You have a criterion for distinguishing what you like from what you don’t, but the barrier that exists between them?I don’t like it? And telling that to the other person through these free reviews is really cool Why does a person have to show their rejection of how a person dresses?
Often, behind such comments, there is a need that must be met at the expense of others. We live in a world where we are all different. Each has its own different colors and tones; nuances that transform us into the people we are.
They are differences that enrich interactions with others and the world we live in, through them we learn to be tolerant and accept that our way of life is neither the best nor the only one, each person in the world has their own path to live and be happy. That is why it is important to think about why we make these innocuous comments (apparently) or launch these “provocations”. What do we gain from that?
But how do we react? In these situations, the person is usually offended (when he is not sure, more sensitive or simply hurt by the gratuitousness of certain comments) or does not feel directly affected (because he understands that this is the other’s opinion, but not his reality).
We are talking about people who often make such comments, comments that are not harmless or innocent, but have one purpose: to make the person feel better, to feed this hungry monster that is strengthened by the pain of others.
This behavior is typical of narcissistic people. These people have such a damaging internal wound that it forces them to do this: they inflate their egos at the expense of others, a wound based on low self-esteem and insecurity, if I can see the other as someone inferior to me, it will certainly be much better and I will take away the contempt I feel for myself.
But that’s a big lie. The more you hurt the other, the more despicable you’ll feel. Is this a situation that needs to be reversed?Love yourself so you can heal this wound, never diminishing the other to increase your. Become great by loving and taking care of yourself; Accept yourself so you can love and accept others.
So when do you have many? And seemingly harmless, or when you make these comments yourself, ask yourself, why, what do you need to accomplish with them?What’s your search? This is the best way to heal and stop hurting others.