Do we always make decisions about our work, our relationships?We are often unaware that our thinking is a desiderative thought, which is formed by our desires.
“You can ignore reality, but you can’t ignore the consequences of ignoring reality. -Ayn rand-
- For example.
- When we want an object or a situation.
- Reach a certain goal or buy the house we want.
- Those thoughts take over our minds.
- And in this way we send a signal to our brain that we lack something.
- Doing from now on will be influenced by this desire.
So what about reality? It becomes what we want and we start presenting it in a very unique way, it is not difficult to see that this will bring us many problems, not only in terms of relationships, but also in terms of work. Reality is the way it is. , and even if we want to see it with other eyes, it won’t change.
This may seem exaggerated, but thought becomes a slave to the desire in our minds, especially if desire is great, when that happens, we are unable to make rational decisions, we no longer see real reality, but what we want. to see.
Dedicatory thinking is based on illusion and fantasy, that way, whatever really happens, if we stray from the right path, if we don’t treat people well, if we make mistakes, we can’t see any of this, because visualizing a world apart, an imaginary world that we make a reality in our minds.
Dedicatory thinking can be a form of motivation, but it can often become a way to escape a situation we don’t like. For example, imagine a relationship where everything goes wrong. We’d like everything to be the way it was, when everything was better. Our reflection recovers the memories of this happy moment, brings it to the present and, in this way, we believe that everything is fine.
Reality can be very painful and therefore we try to escape unconsciously.
We live a fantasy unintentionally and without realizing that we are looking fat at what is happening, in fact, we are faking it. We focus on ourselves, on our own desire and end up forgetting about others, which creates serious problems around us and in relationships.
We must be aware that desentation is not a real thing, but a reflection of what we want to happen, we have to be realistic so as not to fall into certain pitfalls that can cause us serious problems in our lives, some of them are:
Sooner or later, reality will be as it really is, much crueler and much more bitter.
If we live a long time in this fantastic world, there will come a time when we will not be able to distinguish what is real and what is not, there will be moments in our relationships when people will try to open our eyes: it will be like a slap in reality. that’ll make you sad. Don’t go to a fantastic world to feel better.
We live in a real world, from which we cannot escape even if we want, if you don’t open your eyes, situations and people will do it for you, but it’s better to do it yourself, don’t get hurt by a finite dream, for a lie that wasn’t real.
Desideat thinking is very practical, we feel comfortable with it, exactly where we want to be, however, it also turns us into cowardly people who are fleeing reality and everything they do not want to accept.