We often criticize and judge people without any constructive intent, for some reason, there are people who project their negativity and insecurities judging what others do or stop doing, w. say or not, through criticism, are people who are dedicated to transmitting and disseminating what they believe to be flaws and bad examples of behavior.
To a greater or lesser extent, we have all been victims and producers of destructive trials and criticisms; indeed, the practice of criticism has reached such a scale that radio and television programs now proliferate that they rely solely on this: in an attempt to harm people by criticizing and judging their behavior. Today, these programs are becoming more popular and have very high audience levels. Why do we like to criticize?
- Understanding the mechanism of criticism can help us understand how this pattern of behavior works.
- In this article.
- We’ll talk about some of the main reasons why people attack and harm others through destructive judgments and criticism.
“Everything, absolutely everything, is criticized. Is it just a matter of imagination?.
Feelings of inferiority can be a motivation to criticize others. Sometimes this motivation is a sense of superiority. In this sense, for many people, the feeling of superiority is just a cover of their feeling of inferiority, a place where they do not feel so insecure.
That’s why they try to satisfy the need to feel powerful and superior, whatever the medium, even if it passes over someone and damages their image by critics.
“For some people, when the muscles in their arms are missing, they stay on their tongues. -Miguel Delibes-
We criticize others so that our own shortcomings are minimized before others and before ourselves. When we criticize someone, we are mistaken with the illusion that the problem is with the other person and not with ourselves. When we criticize, we are convinced that others also make mistakes and that their mistakes are greater than ours so that we do not feel so bad.
Thus, when we criticize we show the reflections of what bothers us in ourselves: we project our fears and insecurities; in fact, when we don’t accept some of our features and recognize them in others, they generate a big rejection and trigger our criticism. This phenomenon has a name and is known as “I rejected”.
Jealous and envious people are very critical. When they feel inferior to someone, they activate a defense mechanism that involves diminishing each other’s qualities through criticism, in these cases it is normal for each other’s defects to increase or even be invented.
“These people are not accustomed to self-criticism, their energies are aimed at judging others. In that sense, do you look at each other, because you are afraid of what you see in yours?
Some people’s social relationships are based on the criticism of others. Some studies show us that, to ensure our participation in a group, we often tend to criticize people from different groups. In this way, criticism acts as a booster of this. “feeling of belonging, ” for him and often for the other members of the group.
In this context, criticism will be strongly influenced by the attitude of the group; if the group approves and accepts, it will be strengthened: criticism is likely to increase in intensity and frequency; on the other hand, in case of rejection, the person who seeks to strengthen his “feeling of belonging” seeks other paths.
Finally, when we think we are experts on an issue, we can criticize others for demonstrating what we know and reaffirming our position, reflecting a lack of self-esteem and admiration for unresolved or unresolved admiration, at least dissatisfied.
One of the reasons that can lead someone to criticize another person may be the desire for revenge, there may be situations that have not been wholely assimilated, that are poorly resolved or without forgiveness, in these cases criticism is used as a tool of humiliation and revenge. When you don’t have the courage to say something across the street?to someone who has hurt us, we use criticism to hide our frustration, anger or dissatisfaction.
“Criticism is actually a place where we put our anger. So, what do we do? We’re starting to criticize because we think it’s better than facing our own anger. -Jorge Cassieri-
Criticism as revenge has a lot to do with revenge as manipulation, do you sometimes criticize yourself with the perverse intention of confronting someone against the criticized person, excluding them from the group, isolating them?
When we feel we qualify for a special treatment or condition and believe we are not getting what we are entitled to, we feel we owe something. Sometimes, because of a narcissistic feeling, we think others should come to our service. When we feel that this is not the case, we can use criticism to complain, belittle, and hurt others.
“Instead of criticizing, congratulating. In a month, will you notice a huge change in yourself?-Alejandro Chaban-
There is no doubt that criticism in any form is inevitable. In this sense, as Stamateas explains, the “three-thirds law” applies. There are a third of the people who love us, another third of the people who hate us and another third are the people who do not know us and yet they talk about us.
However, we cannot underestimate the negative and destructive power that some critics can achieve. Winston Churchill compared criticism to pain that we can physically feel. A recent study found that experiments of rejection, criticism, and humiliation are treated by the same area of the brain that is responsible for pain treatment.
“With the stones that critics throw continuously, a monument can be erected. “Kant-
To manage and live this social epidemic of destructive criticism, we must move away or protect ourselves from these toxic people. These people are negative beings whose pattern of behavior is to poison people, that is, “oppose”.
The sensible thing to do is to escape, especially when they try to make us accomplices, your critic. Let’s not forget that interacting with these people can affect our emotional and social health.
In short, the key is not to be contaminated and not to be affected by criticism when the goal is us, remember that the critic is more critical than the critic, this is the personal problem of the other person, not ours.
“To avoid criticism, say nothing, say nothing, be nothing. ” – Elbert Hubbard-