Emotional connection is a reality. Emotionally connecting with another person allows us to accompany you in loneliness and pain, and in times of illness, it can even be beneficial to the point of becoming therapy.
No one knows how much our thoughts move. Intelligent people tend to perceive the most rational side of things and thoughts, but more sensitive people not only perceive the rational side, but can also develop emotional connections more easily.
- A professional psychologist had a 13-year-old patient who had not said a word for 15 months; As a child.
- His father died suddenly after a long period of illness.
- And his mother had died in an accident just two years ago.
- The paternal grandparents decided not to stay in contact with him alone and his only maternal grandfather did not want to welcome him home.
In consultation with the psychologist, the hours moved to observe the walls, making no noise, agitated, nervous and worried, repeated this behavior session after session, his pain and anguish were so immense that he could not articulate word and could not express an emotion, however insignificant.
The professional who accompanied him decided to focus on his healing in a particular way, approaching his side in silence and following his pain. At the end of the session, the psychologist said, “If you feel like it and want to, come back. Next week. I know it hurts? The young man’s answer was always the same. Anything.
Months passed and the psychologist started playing chess with him. The sessions continued, as nervousness and anxiety subsided, until the therapist took the time to execute his movement, and the young man looked at him and said, “It’s yours. “
Apart from this week, he began to speak slowly, and soon he joined a basketball team, he met his friends in high school, in short, he left his isolation to live his life.
This professional may never know where the mystery of the healing process is, but he has learned to connect emotionally with the young man through his sensitivity, he understood that time makes possible problems that seem terribly insurmountable, he learned to be sensitive beyond words, to be present with just a look, a caress, a smile, a warm gesture.
In other words: he learned to listen to his heart.