Victims of a traumatic experience live or have experienced great suffering, sometimes with our attitudes we contribute to their revictimization, which generates the permanence of great pain, so it is important to raise awareness and help these people to join forces and get out of Anxiety: depabilating the victim helps improve their recovery.
It’s really about embarking on a transformation path in which traumatic experience is not what defines the victim, it is possible to do it even if it is not simple, in this article we bring you more details on the subject and show you how to proceed. Let’s also talk about resilience, a powerful tool that can benefit victims. We invite you to join us on this journey.
- Victim.
- According to the dictionary.
- Is “a person who suffers harm because of others or fortuitous causes”.
- The damage can be physical.
- Psychological.
- Social and material.
- After the fact.
- One or more areas of the person’s health is affected.
- People may be victims of several problems: a natural disaster.
- Rape.
- Psychological aggression caused by armed conflict.
- Among others.
All these processes can lead to victims, people who, after the painful or traumatic experience, will have to live with some kind of harm or pain, this experience will be associated with various thoughts, emotions and behaviors that can be very unfavorable if they continue. extraordinary time.
So when we talk about the importance of victimizing the victim, we talk about making him stop being a victim so that he can regain control of his life, it consists in providing the victim with elements so that he does not get stuck in victimization. That is, do not position yourself as a victim, do not take advantage of it or exaggerate your situation. Sometimes the victims build all their stories according to their condition of victim, without showing themselves and seeing themselves beyond that element.
We do not mean that the victim consciously wishes to continue as such, sometimes perpetuates his condition by the fear associated with what happened to him, sometimes even people close to you can always see him as such and want to protect him.
Decompactation is a process that involves an appropriate model of intervention so that the victim can transcend his condition, so that this happens it is necessary to emphasize how and why, in addition, the victim can do so by working with himself with or without support, but especially focusing on the responsibility of taking care of himself.
To begin with, the victim must want to go down the path of victimization, so one of the first steps is to recognize self-optimization, this will help you see everything from a different perspective and start acting, let’s look at some ways:
In addition, we can start to see everything from a different perspective, a more loving perspective, in which we flee and begin to show ourselves as we really are and to enjoy all that we can offer to others and ourselves, is a reconstruction.
It is not a simple job, but we can gradually build, for this we will have to take care of our emotional, social, physical and spiritual world, we must remember that health is an integral part and that taking control of our lives means taking care of ourselves.
Resilience can be cultivated. Thanks to it we can make the most of ourselves, it is the ability to overcome problems, that is, to deal with them, this applies to all areas of our development. It is therefore influenced by both our biology and the environment.
To build resilience we can use various strategies, for example, through stories and art we create communication bridges that allow us to show and understand what is happening to us, we can also attend group and individual psychotherapies, or even use augmented reality. , as Ibeth Johana Acosta, specialist in legal and forensic psychology, suggests.
When we have that resilience, we can see barriers as learning, so we separate ourselves from the position of the victims and begin to build new narratives that add a kinder meaning to our experience.
Cyrulnik and her colleagues talk in depth about this topic in the book Resilience: Discrediting the Victim (Resilience: Discrediting the Victim), emphasize, among other things, that there is a psychological choice for life in victimization processes and invite us to transcend the subject’s psychopathological vision, both professionally and personally.
In short, victimization helps the victim to set aside what keeps her in that position and therefore allows for a more authentic encounter with others and with himself.
In addition, resilience can foster the construction of new narratives that offer a world full of learnings and new panoramas, this gives the person a new meaning, which goes beyond the traumatic experience, a great way to transcend.