When we establish radical positions around the education of our children, we lose control of the situation, so if we go to the permissive extreme and play a word game, we can say that we can lead a normal life with the children around us, not around them. , as if our lives were conditioned on their desires.
For education to be adequate, it must meet certain conditions: systematic, authority and affection. We understand systematization as the fact that we are consistent, that our words and actions are in tune. It’s the best way for our children to see values. we want to transmit them through our actions, experience the positive consequences of assuming them and internalize them.
- With authority.
- We talk about the ability to take control of situations with our children.
- Serving as a reliable guide.
- Even if it is not foolproof.
- Authority should be discouraged in parents.
- Because if an adult discredits the child.
- They will automatically lose their authority.
- Wherever possible.
- Different views should be dealt with in private.
Finally, affection means a gear that makes any learning not painful, but that facilitates and stimulates the senses. Let’s look at some points that will make us understand that discipline and love must be united in education.
This is one of the best rules of Finnish education, which creates a trend on how to improve children’s education in and out of school.
It is forbidden not to speak in class because they consider the need for communication to be fundamental in every human being, and omitting it to simulate righteousness and discipline only indicates the inability of teachers and parents to understand our nature and, therefore, nature. of your children.
It’s just a matter of giving children a voice when they want to express themselves, not at all, but at any time. This goes against our idea of justice, but we must consider the following: Have these old ideas repeatedly had a good result in education?
When we talk about letting them speak we mean that the child has communication needs and must share them, it is simply a matter of clarifying that it is better to do so with a certain tone or at a certain time, but specifying that it can be expressed if he wishes.
Many disruptive behaviors are caused by a person who feels ignored, without reflecting on himself and with only one reason to act: obedience, let her speak, communicate and express herself. Talking teaches you to express yourself through speech and not through impulsive actions.
There is nothing more heartbreaking about a child’s self-esteem than being rebuked, insulted, corrected or even bodilyized in public (the latter would be reported). Besides being a bad thing for self-esteem, it’s no use to your education. .
If you want to correct something in the child’s behavior at a friend’s meeting or, for example, at a birthday party, talk to the child privately or, if necessary, remove him or her completely from that situation. If you think you’ve lost control of the situation, regain that control, but in private.
On the other hand, reinforcements can be given in public without fear of excessive vanity, showing affection in public and receiving praise for their good behavior in front of their peers is instructive and revealing for her and the rest of the children.
There’s no reason to talk to the kids like they don’t understand, because in the end they’re going to pretend not to understand to take advantage of their own benefit. Not being able to understand complex words and syntax does not mean that they cannot understand the essence of an Adiplo explanation at the child’s level and bring it to reason by asking questions about the consequences of behavior in one way or another.
For example, if you’ve insulted someone, you can try to make analogies between what you just did and what you’d like to finish. If you insulted someone (for example, because you’re a lot of fun and smell bad), explain how you’d feel if you pointed out in front of other children that even today you urinate in bed from time to time.
Put your knowledge to the test, make a simple analogy, and build your ability to empathize with others.
When a child crosses the line should be punished or parents should at least report this misbehavior, there are several types of problematic behaviors, the important thing is that they are corrected consistently and systematically as soon as they appear. The reason is to prevent the child from implementing it in his repertoire of behaviors to get what he wants.
If you hit a partner, for example, we must show determination in the punishment or punishment to endure, this can include restorative action (asking for forgiveness and taking positive action for this partner), withdrawal of rewards or negative punishment (not being able to play video games for a week), or a severe and firm conversation with the adults around you.
That’s why it’s advisable, it doesn’t mean that we should forget our tone of voice and our gestures of rebuke, they say that the tone with which we talk to our children will be their inner voice, so ideally to have a firm voice, but avoid shouting. Highlight your particular behavior, but not your personality and character in general, and always set appropriate behavioral alternatives.