We call the inner child the image we have of ourselves in terms of feelings, appreciation, recognition of skills and abilities and, therefore, the personal satisfaction of being who we are.
Our inner child has emerged in childhood and continues to reappear in situations of suffering, pain or problems usually caused by unresolved emotional conflicts or blockages in childhood, but not everything is lost: we can find our interior restoring the image we have of ourselves. .
- It is in childhood that our own self-knowledge is created.
- That is.
- The image we have of ourselves.
- And this happens according to what our parents project on us.
- The experiences and circumstances we live.
When we are young, the adults of reference serve as mirrors, it is in them that we see ourselves to recognize ourselves and know who we are, on some occasions, although our parents pretend to give us what they believe is best, we do not do it. they know how to ask for what we need and they don’t know exactly what we want.
Therefore, we can grow with needs, pain, sadness and even childhood traumas that unconsciously leave their mark even if we don’t know why.
When childhood was not a happy stage, we grew up emotionally dissatisfied and without living intensely that stage that we should have gone through, the child becomes an adult, but without resolving the conflicts of childhood (since they are subconscious), he feels a personal feeling. dissatisfaction that will move from childhood to adulthood.
Often, when we become adults, we do not remember the stages of our childhood because we can have selective amnesia; is a symptom of unresolved internal conflicts.
We lose our inner child, we feel dissatisfied with ourselves, and when we reach adulthood we lose all illusions of childhood. We have no plans or desires, and we don’t want to use games as a means of entertainment and recreation. Life becomes an apathetic, serious, sad and dissatisfied life.
Arriving in adulthood, if the previous stage was satisfactory and there is no other disorder, the child we went to remain present and appears in funny moments, full of childhood fantasies, enjoying the little moments.
You could say that, despite the problems of adult life, life can remain fun, surprising, passionate and ultimately happy. Just because we’re adults doesn’t mean we have to deny pleasure and fantasy.
Recovering our inner child means creating a more satisfying image of ourselves, valuing and loving us, recognizing our skills and abilities, and also projecting desires and dreams, so we regain personal satisfaction and feel happiness.
To find our inner child, we can follow these steps: