Fear is one of the forces that leads us to undertake a great work of defense or slavery, to build mechanisms to take care of ourselves, or to isolate ourselves and put a wall in front of the world. Therefore, you have to overcome the fear, deal with it so that it does not become uncontrollable. Follow this proposal: do something that scares you every day.
It’s very likely that people who love you won’t invite you to do so to protect you, in fact, they will often try to persuade you not to expose yourself, take risks, and feel the discomfort of dealing with fear.
“The man who is fearlessly invents danger to justify his fear. “Alain-
They do it in good faith. Fear is not exactly a pleasant feeling, although today many people depend on risk, under normal conditions we think it is a concern that we are trying to get rid of as quickly as possible, the disadvantage is that this is how we end up building lifestyles that keep us stagnant.
The comfort zone is everywhere where everything is easily controlled, it is another way to name the routine, the known, the familiar and therefore what invites us to stay afloat, without questioning us, without growing, without moving forward.
Of course, having comfort zones is very healthy. Physical and emotional spaces that allow us to put aside worries and turn off the switch to make decisions and enjoy the little things, without more pretension than tranquility. These spaces are absolutely necessary to digest experiences, assimilate them and rebalance them.
What happens is that sometimes they also act as bubbles that end up separating us from enriching experiences, acting as shelters for those who never want to leave again, help to ward off fears, even those that we must face and overcome to grow or reduce. So when they tell you: do something that scares you, what they do is ask you out of your comfort zone.
In principle, fear is valid as a preservation mechanism, when it grows too much it begins to invade people’s souls, it has its own dynamic: it feeds. Fear tends to increase, to develop on its own; if you don’t impose a limit, it can increase disproportionately.
We all need a little fear to live, but we also run the risk of succumbing to it, which often happens imperceptibly. You’re afraid to speak in public and build a life you’ll never have to do, or avoid any situation that makes you face it. Sounds logical. What doesn’t make sense is that he’s giving up small, big opportunities just because of that fear.
The same goes for more relevant issues, such as suffering. You are afraid of suffering and then you abandon the beautiful experiences of life to protect yourself. Or he is afraid of loneliness and renounces his freedom not to expose himself to it.
The bottom line is that there is no other way to overcome fear than to face it. A dynamic also begins to operate in which the more you face it, the more capable you feel and the braver you become. Courage is also nurtured.
In addition, when you overcome fear, you begin to discover other aspects of yourself, to increase confidence and self-esteem. It feels good to be able to push those limits. But of course, in fear there are levels. You can’t start with what terrifies you the most, because you may not be prepared and, instead of feeding your courage, you may end up being more afraid than when you started.
So that’s how it can be effective to do something that scares you every day. For this, we can start with small fears. For example, if we are afraid of the dark, we can stay a few minutes in total darkness and go out on the other side a little stronger, or just walk a little along a path that we do not know and that does not inspire confidence.
It’s you, and only you, who know where to start. Do you dare try?