Do, whatever you have in mind, dare to do it, because if they want to criticize you in any way, it’s not worth hiding in your hole, being bitter in your insecurities. Living fully is the art of playing from deaf to hollow. and malevolent words to escape mediocrity and dance in the midst of the extraordinary.
It is curious to know how, when looking for a critical literature, most of the titles that appear always focus on the idea that we must learn from them, it is as if most of the criticisms we receive daily had that positive and constructive intention; Critical topics that need to be responsive to understand error, accept suggestions, and grow.
- But in reality.
- Many of the criticisms we receive throughout our lives do not help and do not even seek to shed light.
- On the contrary.
- Undermine our self-image and undermine our self-esteem.
- We are talking.
- Without a doubt.
- About a highly destructive dimension that has a strong impact on childhood and marital relationships.
It is often said that what people seek above all is to be valued by others, and that is why it is very difficult to blame themselves, that is not entirely true. Human beings, without being valued, need to be respected. More than a compliment, we simply prefer to “be and let be. “Thus, many of the criticisms we receive in our day-to-day lives are like those vivid shadows that seek to eclipse our work, our lifestyle, our identity.
You have your way of doing things, with your own whims, your particular details and your incomparable style, others may not understand, they may be surprised, and more than one commette is the recklessness to censor and criticize you simply because you are your way of doing things. things like you. Therefore, their criticisms are of little use, but many side effects.
Punitive messages that do nothing and seek only to humiliate people or entities of their own hurt, this pain, in turn, is associated with the bond we have with that person, the greater the proximity, the greater the aftermath. so, for the famous theory of the four horsemen of John Gottmam’s apocalypse about the causes that predict the breakdown of a romantic relationship, criticism is one of the main ones.
It is customary to start in a subtle, almost imperceptible way, however, little by little, criticism persists and becomes a spiral where ingredients such as resentment, contempt or resentment are added.
Criticism will always rise as fatality triggers when based on the following principles:
Relationship experts tell us that people who practice this type of behavior based on continuous criticism are well aware that this type of verbalization does not help to improve things, in fact, they criticize and attack through the word to protect the ego. It is a labyrinth. of slow destruction from which we must get out as soon as possible.
At this point it is important to clarify a point. If important people prevent us from being ourselves through continuous criticism and contempt, that connection is useless, not genuine, and harmful. There are people who validate themselves through this mental framework that motivates them to remind us over and over again how bad we do things, how clumsy we are and the lack of initiative that characterizes us. In this way and with these tricks, they are placed on the platform of power and infallibility.
Let’s think about it for a minute. It has been very difficult for us to get to where we are, in our day to day we have suffered enough to keep our self-esteem afloat, to manage our own self-criticism, to be able to discern the useful criticism from the unnecessary one. We are not going to piggyback on those people who just want to validate their voids with our insecurities.
You are not perfect, however, these unique and imperfect nuances do not hurt anyone and define you as a person. Don’t let them dare criticize you for being who you are, for thinking as you think, for acting the way you want, or for defending the values that characterize your heart.
Always act safely and apply a hygienic filter to pay attention to objections that help us grow and ignore what is simply not useful or respectful.
Images courtesy of George Emos.