Do from the heart what you do on the subway: to allow a new love to dwell within us, we must free ourselves from all burden, fear and bitterness in order to make full progress in our current relationship. prisoners to the point of closing the doors of our hearts, because learning should require learning, maturity and growth.
We all have emotional experiences in our backpacks that we carry with us memories that inevitably determine how we are, relationships, like bones, break and we know that in some cases we are very hurt by these faults that leave real scars on the soul.
- All this can have a big impact on our lives and.
- Therefore.
- Before starting new relationships.
- It is always recommended to spend time cautiously in solitude.
- To understand and rebuild.
Before I reopen the doors of my heart, do I have to let go of many things, heal my wounds, dry my tears and stay for a moment deep in my loneliness?
We often say the phrase that is often repeated “ex bueno is ex muerto”. But what we really should do instead of physical and emotional distance is integration and emotional detachment. First, it’s a matter of accepting what has happened and taking the lessons learned from the situation, and then cut off the link of suffering and cured it.
The human mind does not have a magic switch by which we can turn off or send any traumatic or negative experience to the recycle bin, if this does not happen it is only for one reason: because humans need to learn, gain experience to improve. adapt to their environment and the people they live with.
Today, in the age of social media and technology, we all know that relationships have no eternal reason to be, we also know that no one dies of love, that being single can be a wonderful thing, even with all this, yet we are romantic still incorrigible. Why doesn’t the heart always serve reason, and when you least expect it, someone crushes us so hard that we lack ground?and again we fell in love.
In the heart, or rather, in this land of no one occupied by our emotional memory that comes from the brain, all our relationships, present and past, coexist together, more or less intensely, coexist, whether they are traumatic or unsatisfactory. stories, can directly affect our image of ourselves as a couple and also that of others. Any emotional burden or misresolved failure affects our emotional and relational health.
The healthiest and happiest relationships are those that build the present with maturity, having already accepted the individual past, in a relationship only two people can adapt, but if we add the shadows left by the previous relationships, we are already a multitude. it’s so necessary to let it go.
What many couple psychologists agree on is that the main problem is that no one educates us to create healthy and assertive romantic relationships. Most of us simply reproduce learned patterns, usually negative.
No one tells us how to page in the face of emotional failure, or how to forget the strong disappointments and betrayals. Most of us walk blindly in this strange and complex world of emotional relationships.
Hate is as intense an emotion as love, so it won’t do us any good to arouse negative emotions, like anger. Besides, it won’t do any good to try to implement the famous “don’t get involved” strategy so you don’t suffer. Close the part of our hearts to avoid being hurt again, but also avoid happiness.
In conclusion, we must be clear that when starting a new relationship, it is common to see with our new emotional partners current problems faced by past peers, if we do not properly manage the situation, reflecting and recognizing the fear of overcoming it, we can reach unsustainable situations.
It is necessary to accept ourselves with our scars and with our past, because what we are now is also the result of our experience, however, we must face the present as it appears, as something new, uncertain and wonderful, something worth living with. the expectation of a child and the experience of an adult.