There is a big difference between having a strong personality and developing an intimidating personality, there are people who have had to fight with life in difficult battles and who have tempered their personality, but it has also taken away their sweetness, the worst thing is that sometimes the battles they fought led them to constantly adopt defensive positions, walking with harnesses and considering as an enemy all the territory they walk through.
We all know people of great heart who, however, do not prove it, are often people who do very well in their profession and even in their social life, but an atmosphere of fear around them is forming, they have strong reactions and people. they end up being afraid of them.
- “Softness and flexibility are intimately linked to life.
- While hardness and rigidity are associated with death.
- “Walter Riso?.
Those with intimidating personalities often don’t realize the effect they have on others; they know they’re good people and they don’t understand why others get scared of their harsh expressions or gestures. To find out if this is your case, ask yourself if you have one or more of the following features.
If after speaking you notice that the people around you are silent, it’s time to ask yourself if you have an intimidating personality, perhaps without realizing it you express yourself too crudely, maybe you’re too direct or categorical in expressing what you think. Others may also admire you so much that they’re afraid to disappoint you.
It works like this: you don’t give opinions, but you draw conclusions, it’s how deep down you say the last word on a topic, in your words it is implied that you do not admit and ignore the comments, it is like ending the conversation. You talk to be heard and use an authoritarian tone, so not everyone will be encouraged to continue the conversation.
You realize that you have an intimidating personality when you arrive at a cheerful and participatory meeting and that your presence relieves a little the mood, there can be a sudden silence or some kind of discontent, you realize that people do not act spontaneously when you are there.
People with intimidating personalities are often “sincere. ” They almost always brag about being honest and not talking too much. To express what they think or feel. However, they can confuse sincerity with lack of consideration or rudeness.
In this type of personality, it is common for there to be some rejection of overly kind manners. They believe that the truth, the more raw it is, the truer it is; to say things tactfully is to invent or falsify the truth. They don’t see the difference between kindness and flattery.
The problem is that when they say “truths” excessively rudely, they can only cause discomfort. Sometimes the way they are spoken is so brutal that the interlocutor forgets the content of what is communicated and only has the impression of how the words said crudely end up not being heard.
If you are someone with an intimidating personality you will find it very difficult to understand the weaknesses or difficulties of others, if they tell you a problem, you will encourage them to make an effort to get ahead as quickly as possible. the other needs a voice of authority that forces him to overcome the situation, not a shoulder on which to cry.
The problem is that we often go through difficult times and need the emotional comfort of others. We don’t want pity, but someone who just listens to us and accompanies us without judging us. We don’t want to be told what to do. Often we don’t need to know which path to take, but to support ourselves as we develop the strength to move forward.
An intimidating personality makes others distantial. So much external toughness ends up ingesting you from affections. Overly defensive attitudes often turn against yourself. Maybe your personality isn’t: Mary Poppins? Or ‘Mother Teresa‘, but that doesn’t mean you should be too much others. they have a lot to offer and it would be worth reconsidering how they approach and communicate with each other.