To destabilize a person it is not necessary to create direct conflict or physical violence, the use of ironies, teasing or innuendo is part of a type of communication between equals in which an individual is injured, we speak of perverse communication and it can happen between couples , friends or at work.
Perverse communication refers to the psychological torture of a neighbor who makes no noise, but who destabilizes and confuses those directed, all of which can begin with a simple lack of respect without, of course, producing a sense of guilt on the part of the issuer.
- To initiate this type of communication.
- It is sufficient for an individual to mock the personal tastes.
- Achievements or expectations of their partner.
- Both privately and in public; it is also common for the person to deprive him of the opportunity to express himself or make insinuations about the other without being able to clarify them.
Other times, it’s as simple as not talking to you, despite the constant attempts of the?Victim? If your partner really ignores you for no apparent reason, these actions are often accompanied by nonverbal communication through arrogant or abusive glances. Sighs.
Irony and contempt are two weapons that these individuals wield and that will determine their circle of relationships. At first glance, this attitude may give the impression of being a strong individual, as it puts him in the position of “what he is supposed to”. know. “
The persistence of this attitude leads to the collective belief that this person is “like this”. Basically, what you can do is create unpleasant climates and environments that are not recommended in all areas or facets of your life in which you expose your attitude. At the same time, this attitude contributes to the creation of totally sincere and intimate communication spaces.
In this way, the interlocutor ends up consenting to the sarcasm, indifference and contempt of his partner, friend or colleague, as if it were the price he had to pay to maintain a relationship with this attractive but extremely complicated couple.
Sarcasm and slight contempt are used as small details that annoy and irritate the other and often occur in the presence of other people; in addition, they usually have the reinforcement of an accomplice of the group. The assault is so insidious that even the recipient doubts whether it is serious or just a joke to accept.
These actions are so everyday that they seem the most normal thing in the world, they begin with a simple lack of respect, but they lead to continuous attacks that will have a significant impact on the psychological health of those who suffer from them.
It is so enigmatic and part of everyday life that victims end up choosing to embrace and accept it: they end up idolating these people with the clear certainty that it is better to be with them than against them. This leads to a real distortion of the relationship between the two parties.
Marie-France Irigoyen tells us about this type of violence, which occurs in a very secret and very gradual way, and that the person who suffers it does not react to the counterattack, it shows only the attitude that most feeds the secret aggressions of another: excessive kindness . She thinks that if she can please a little more, at some point, her difficult partner will become more polite.
We can’t forget that if at some point the victim decides to rebel and tries to impose himself, there?Being superior will take care of controlling it, nullified any critical thinking skills and causing you to lose track of your identity.
Unsafe people are likely to be caught by manipulators. These types of people put the opinions of others before their own, because they believe they will always know more about any subject.
After all of the above, who is not really sure of himself: the one who is manipulated or the one who needs to manipulate to feel strong in the face of everyday life?others are clear. We must understand that each individual is unique and irreplaceable and should not be a threat figure to his peers.
To you that I don’t know (or even don’t know), I can tell you that you have the same value as any of the people around you (no more, no less). Take decisive steps wherever you go, because your appearance, opinions, aspirations and goals deserve to be appreciated.