“The wounds we don’t see are the deepest. “
William Shakespeare
- One of the most self-destructive emotional traits out there is emotional dependence on a partner.
- Friend.
- Or family member.
When we are emotionally dependent we lose the self-esteem, the treasure that each possesses and that makes us unique and special, that is why today I bring you 5 traits that cause emotional dependence in relation to one of the most important people in our lives, the partner.
The identification and knowledge of each of them will help you regain your self-esteem, orient yourself and decorate your own life, without leaving it in the hands of others, with this you will feel stronger, better and get what you deserve, which is to be free.
Loss of self-esteem. As we said earlier, emotional dependence leads to loss of self-esteem and, likewise, self-cancellation. Emotionally dependent people usually have serious self-esteem issues.
When this happens in our romantic relationship, we run the risk of gradually losing the person we love because we are not aware of this situation or we do not have the tools to overcome it.
This results in loss of identity. An emotionally dependent person probably lives in a world where his partner is the center of everything, all his actions, all his desires and actions will depend on what the other creates, this situation makes us an extension of our partner, losing our identity, the personality that characterizes us, and generating total dependence.
In this way, we can risk being physically and psychologically abused, when this happens, it is recommended to seek professional help through therapy, which can help us overcome and avoid the situation.
“He who does not love you as you are does not deserve to be remembered” (Niki Lauda).
Physical and psychological violence. At some point, the partner may notice the emotional dependence of the other, a situation that can cause him to act in a dominant role, easily taking advantage of this state and this situation.
This profile is very common in couples where emotional dependence of one of the parties is present.
The person who is not emotionally dependent feels free, which can make him capable of exerting pressure, lying, being hostile, disrespectful and even taking advantage of his dominant position physically, materially or psychologically.
The abuser knows that the addict is unlikely to crack and hold everything without exerting compensatory force. If you experience physical abuse, infidelity, and humiliation, it’s necessary and important to talk to a professional you’re comfortable with to do a personal job.
Isolation and loss of social skills. We are in such an unpleasant and stressful situation that we are consumed internally at high levels, do not feel free and without strength. Addiction will make us gradually become isolation from our social environment, our friends and our family, all of this of their own free will, because for a dependent person their partner is their world.
This isolation also leads to the loss and erosion of personal social skills. Isolating ourselves from our environment and reality invites us to be blind to our own lives, unconsciously increasing emotional dependence.
Sudden mood swings. Emotional dependence is a psychological disorder that manifests itself in different ways. The dependent suffers from “disphoric mood”, i. e. sudden mood swings during his daily life.
Suffering from this emotional state can lead to depression, stress and anxiety, all this will bring, internally, a state of guilt, feeling empty, jealousy at high levels and, above all: fear, symptoms that can be relieved with presence. of their partner and, paradoxically, are caused by the absence of this couple.