A hidden place in the Himalayan mountain range, near Tibet, in southwest China. A place where women have decided never to marry, but to have responsible children and parents?It’s the Mosuo ethnic group.
Mosuo is a recently published matriarchal culture, thanks in part to Canadian John Lombard, co-founder of the Mosuo Cultural Development Association; an organization that aims to finance various projects to preserve this ethnicity and its interesting culture. The organization helps with both material and cultural goods, but always respecting Mosuo’s decisions.
- The Mosuo ethnic group is made up of a minority of inhabitants who live near tibet’s border with their own culture.
- Different from the rest of the world.
- And most importantly.
- Their lifestyle makes them really happy.
In Mosuo culture, there are no marriages; women decide to stay single for the rest of their lives at their parents’ house, with their children, they decide when and with whom they want to have sex, and the chosen partner, with their consent, appears at night when they go up to their Window while everyone sleeps to spend the night with her?their children are born of this love and this form of union is known as ‘wandering marriages’. They never live together or share common goods.
It all starts at popular dances or events, if a woman Mosuo loves a man, he will tickle him with his index finger in the palm of his hand and he will give him his belt, if he is interested he will hang it. belt in the window to indicate that he is inviting her to spend the night with her. In other situations, they speak openly without prejudice.
Contrary to what you might think, the Mosuo are not at all promiscuous: they simply have the freedom to understand that the couple is not always for life, even if some of them remain for many years, even decades, and if the couple has a partner, they do not agree to have another.
Children live with their mothers in the family home where parents, grandparents, and grandchildren live together; but men sleep in common dormitories and women in private bedrooms to control intimate relationships, it is only in the women’s bedroom where intercourse occurs, and very discreetly, although there may be flirtations during the day with gestures like hand-in-hand.
Although not common, if the parent wants to take care of the education of his children, he must go to the family home and offer gifts to the matriarch; if she accepts them, she will be part of the family as an “honor. “member, “entitled to visit their children and stay there whenever they wish. In Mosuo culture, men are responsible for the children of sisters, aunts, and nieces; it is their role, which must be fulfilled with great responsibility.
Another interesting aspect of this culture is that children are educated from an early age with the idea that they do not create hope of finding an ideal spouse for life; It’s a way to avoid great future loves and emotional disappointments. In fact, when a Mosuo couple decides to separate, there are no conflicts, no emotional impacts on the child, no discussions about sharing the common property, because there has never been any. common commodity.
As strange as all this may seem from the outside, it is a culture that has been working like this for many years, on the other hand, some of those who decide to emigrate to the city in search of work make conventional Western marriages. Does the moscuous culture only work there, in this hidden part of the Himalayan mountain range?
What do you think?