Taking things personal can become a problem that affects self-esteem. When you take every negative situation in your life personally, it means you have a way of thinking that creates a sense of guilt, even if it’s totally unfounded.
We shouldn’t care if someone rejects us, ignores us or disagrees with us in any way, because we’re by no means guilty of that. If we can see all of this realistically, we will always believe in ourselves, even when others don’t. .
- Think for a moment.
- If someone rejects us.
- Ignores us or hurts us.
- Would it be our fault ?.
- The reasons can be many and beyond our control.
- Someone else may have drawn false conclusions because they have a mental map.
- With which we judge.
- Where there was someone like us and that it was fatal to generate some disgust.
It may also be that our behavior did not please the other person, and he would look at the thought that we are our behavior at that time, when in reality a person is much more than that and that everyone can make occasional mistakes.
We may not have live up to other people’s expectations either, but that really shouldn’t be our goal. We must always be ourselves and not adapt to what others want us to be. it’s not our problem; if they don’t accept us as we are, it’s better to give up these relationships.
It would be nice to educate the mind, so that instead of thinking it’s all our fault, we’ll choose another way to reason. For example, you write to someone and they don’t respond; Why should we think it’s our fault?We don’t know why anyone decides not to answer and the last thing we should think about is that we’re guilty of this kind of behavior, because a thought that brings us down, really one?I’m not worthy, I’m wrong, I’m inadequate?.
There are so many reasons why someone may not answer us that we certainly don’t know why; it can be for lack of time, personal problems, lack of motivation or simply because the person does not want to respond at that time.
We cannot adapt everywhere at any time, so it is necessary to learn to think that motives do not always matter so much; everything has to flow naturally. What’s coming will be great and what’s not coming is because it wasn’t for us; it is better to change course and accept things as they are, without taking them personally.
This is the main key to living a happy and guilt-free life. We will encounter all kinds of situations throughout life: sometimes they will be as we want them, sometimes not, but others will surely despise us and sometimes ignore us. It’s in these situations that you have to believe in yourself, even if others don’t.
Every time you show that you believe in yourself, even without others, you will grow, increase your self-esteem, and your self-confidence will grow and strengthen.
It’s the law of life. We will go through positive and negative situations; it is necessary to start living and facing new things, because if we stay in the comfort zone, we will never overcome the negative things. If we want to grow up, we have to sail offshore.
Whatever happens, let’s continue on our way thinking that at all times we have done our best. If important people were left behind along the way, it was not our fault, there were simply no feelings between us.
Let us be grateful to those who accept us as we are, because when this happens they help us believe in ourselves, as far as others are, let us be grateful too, because with them we can grow and learn that we will never please everyone, but we can please the most important person: ourselves.
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