We must overcome the fear of rebirth. Being born is not a moment, but a process that occurs several times in life, in the human being the birth has to do with releasing the other forever, cutting the bond that binds us to someone. Enter an unknown world and assume this condition of individuality and therefore loneliness that determines us.
Throughout life, we often find ourselves in situations similar to those we live at birth. The great separations, the big goodbyes, the confrontation of the great beginnings?
- These are wonderful and terrifying situations at the same time.
- A real challenge that tests all that we are.
- Life is what leads us to this kind of experience most of the time.
- But birth can also be a voluntary process.
- A decision we make when the evidence shows us that a great cycle is dead and it’s time to start a new one.
- It’s time to overcome the fear of being reborn and start over.
“Who is not busy to be born, is busy dying?”-Bob Dylan-
There’s been a lot of talk about the trauma of birth. At the same time, little is known, it is assumed that the fetus is going through moments of great distress at the time of birth, the need to cross, to go out into the world in the midst of difficulties, is a dramatic moment. We touched our lives, literally, at that moment.
The cry and the cry announce that we are out, now we are an individual being, eternally immersed in loneliness after enjoying the honey of symbiosis with our mother, the world we reach has a lot of hostility, outside is not the same warmth.
In this new stage there is cold, there is hunger, they are new sensations. In the womb we had never experienced them, before we didn’t need to ask for anything, now yes, they can answer our call, they can’t, they can understand our needs, but the opposite can also happen. We’re safe in uncertainty.
We will never be as helpless as the first time we were born, but we will have to be reborn repeatedly and the trauma that accompanies these processes will also be repeated, it is an inevitable life cycle.
Many times we will feel that we are inhabited by two rival forces, it is suggested that there is a vast world beyond the known borders, it is a force that invites us to explore, to take risks, the other force instead, attracts us to everything that we already know. Highlight the benefits of being connected. How can we overcome this fear of being reborn?
Sometimes we won’t have a choice. We will embark on a new stage, in a new world, without anyone seeing us, the death of a loved one, for example, is not something that we can accept or reject, this happens and leads us, once again, to a hostile situation. dimension, where we will have to reinvent ourselves. The same goes for any major loss or radical change in the usual context.
Sometimes we are responsible for developing and deciding when and where to be reborn, this happens when we finally accept that we must complete the process of individualization, with all its wonders and limitations.
This happens when we leave the parents’ house, for example, or when we decided to end a relationship that promised to be the answer to all our loneliness, so when we recognize that the context is too heavy and we have to start over in an unknown environment, perhaps thousands of miles from home. The same thing happens when you give up an addiction or give up a dream that you finally recognize as a mistake.
It is impossible to be born again without trauma, these processes do not occur with total serenity and moderation, on the contrary, they are expensive decisions, and they cost tears, strangeness, doubts and waste of energy, however, just as when we were born for the first time, Beyond the passage through the narrow tunnel, a whole new world awaits us to explore.
In each of us lives this adventurous navigator who knows how to sail a thousand times to discover new worlds, there is also the frightened child who calls his mother every time he opens the door to leave home, takes time and effort to decide but in front of us, there, awaits us everything we are able to be.