Falling into ridicule is one of the great fears of those who take their ego very seriously, of course that not making mistakes or showing weaknesses, especially at critical moments, can help us, but if that doesn’t happen, even in the moments I’m talking about, it’s not the end of the world either.
The feeling of mockery feels like more than a shame, in general a misunderstanding, error or failure is associated with disapproval, however, when this happens, you can hear a drowned laugh in the background, and it is precisely this mockery. that increases the effect of shame. In this way, we are faced with a scenario that can also generate perplexity or tension.
- After all.
- What makes something ridiculous is disproportion or inadequation.
- So formal situations are fertile ground for this to happen.
- Often imposing more or less rigid protocols.
- So getting out of the rule is relatively easy.
- Falling into ridicule is so democratic that it can be done anywhere.
- No one escapes and we’ve all tried it once.
“If the ridiculous side doesn’t show up in men, it’s because we’re not looking for it right. “Francois de la Rochefoucauld?
The clown is precisely this character who ridicules his comedy material. Clowns represent anything that can be considered ridiculous. Your outfit is exaggerated, weird. Their huge shoes, red noses and facial makeup make them look absurd, wear garments that simulate an elegant cut, like a suit, full of colors and very striking elements.
A big part of the clown routine is stumbling and falling, which makes the audience laugh is that they are always victims of their own distraction, expect something else and suddenly something gets in their way and throws them to the ground. always fall dramatically, never discreetly.
A good clown performance is full of misunderstandings. They eat a piece of cardboard thinking it’s a cake, or they kiss something horrible, thinking they’re putting their lips together with a beautiful woman, or they’re wrong because they interpreted the instructions differently. The world of clowns is the world of ridicule, but also of innocent laughter.
In reality, it is only possible to be ridiculous, in the strict sense, when the person who makes the mistake takes it too seriously, if someone, for example, cannot dance but claims power, can sound very ridiculous and provoke laughter. On the other hand, if you accept that you can’t dance and have fun with your own limitations, no problem with that.
What is the difference between situations?It comes down to one word: self-esteem. Someone with higher self-esteem is always able to laugh at himself because he accepts himself. This includes tolerating your own mistakes or misunderstandings. On the other hand, when there is insecurity and lack of confidence in who we are, falling into ridicule can be a strong emotional wound.
The real mistake is to believe that we only deserve to be appreciated when we do things right, not when we make mistakes. When we don’t do or say something inappropriate. In this case, there is no actual self-assessment, but a simulated self-assessment.
We all have delicate facets or behaviors, it’s natural. A distraction or a small misunderstanding is enough to fall into a mistake or error in social terms, in the face of this there is only one antidote: to be truthful and therefore humble.
We cannot pretend to do the right thing in all circumstances, what we can do is work to be proud of who we are, to sketch a portrait in which we are appreciated in our entirety, that is, with flaws, virtues, mistakes and successes. . This will allow us to eliminate this desire to hide, disguise or show only the facets that we hope others like the most.
We can get acquainted with the ridiculous by adopting absurd gestures or postures in front of the mirror or going out into the street without thinking too much about our eyes, wearing something original that catches the eye or generates surprise. We will realize that we will remain the same and we can even follow the laughter of those to whom we are having grace.
More importantly, when we allow ourselves to be ridiculous from time to time, without affecting us, we also discover that we can live more relaxed and happy, nothing nourishes both the feeling of fullness and spontaneity, nothing makes us as safe as freedom. ourselves than we imagine others will think.