What is a person’s strength when he or she is sure to be loved?- Freud-
Many times we overestimate everything that is outside of us, which gives it much more importance than it really has in our lives, and chained by this illusion we end up depositing all the reason for our existence in material people and goods that nothing brings us. we believe that we will not be able to live without all this, that life will not follow its course with peace of mind, we think that is wrong, because life goes on, with or without what we want, and sometimes in a much more peaceful and happy way. Way.
- Falling in love with someone.
- For example.
- Brings such pleasure that one clings to the condition of being with another person as a priority and prerequisite indispensable to be happy.
- Thus the possibility of achieving happiness and joy without someone on our side seems inconceivable.
- Something that is not even passed through our heads.
- Unfortunately this distorted view of reality has a high price.
- Which consists in the gradual annulment of everything of our own.
- Of everything we carry inside.
- In favor of keeping the other in our lives.
Unfortunately, when we cling to what is outside of us and, in this outward quest for happiness that must fill our hearts, we neglect the needs of our essence, we fall asleep as people, dying slowly, without realizing it. putting in the lives of others the responsibility to find happiness, because this responsibility is ours.
Happiness is a feeling that we must find in ourselves, make it visible, so that people see us as someone who has a world to share and add, however, if we only offer need and insecurity, we will probably attract those who want. fill these gaps unilaterally and often tyrannically.
Therefore, we must be sure of what we want with our lives, what we deserve to feel, what we should receive from those of us who choose to share our dreams, our desires, we must also have the courage to realize when we are alone during the construction of our journey, even if someone shares nothing but a table and a bed, so we will affirm our existence to the other , for no one can bear, without succumbing, the contempt of others, while his hands groan in vain. in the darkness of empty returns.
We cannot continue to insist on a love that has no future, that despises us or even makes us non-existent, we can never stop fighting for the recognition of everything we do, have and are, of all that we can give and deserve. to receive, always in search of exchanges in which healthy relationships are formed, no less.
We will always have a future full of possibilities and countless ways to find happiness, either with or without someone on our side. So let us not condemn one’s way to the small absence, for fear of having to start over; otherwise, we will no longer have a lifetime ahead of us, because then there will be no life in us.