Don’t compete or compare with anyone. Admire others and learn from them; that’s our advice. It is said that in 1709, in Cardinal Ottoboni’s palace, there was a musical tournament between Georg Friedrich Handel and Domenico Scarlatti, who were 24 years old and had exclusive weapons: a harpsichord and an organ.
Both remained balanced for a long time, but in the end, the body tipped the scales in Handel’s favor. The rivalry continues, but they continue to admire themselves. Scarlatti always meant respect when he heard about Handel.
- This story of Handel and Scarlatti shows us that despite the rivalry between the two.
- They were both excellent musicians and professed mutual admiration.
- It is about loving oneself and being humble enough to admire others and recognize that they have extraordinary skills and deserve to be recognized.
? The only way to progress in life by being original and without having to compete with anyone is by being yourself.
-J. C. Cavallero-
In today’s society we are taught to compete from a young time, it seems that overcoming the other is more important than doing the right thing, competitiveness is present in many areas: in sport, when we apply for a job, to achieve a promotion. , to have more friends or be among the best in certain activities. Many contests and contests are created to find the best in a variety of areas.
But some researchers argue that collaboration outperforms the competition because a group of people working together and together can achieve goals greater than one person, to work with a group of people we have to control our ego and it is something that requires effort and great exercise. humility.
Stay away from people who are trying to lower your ambitions. Little people always do it, but really big people make you feel like you can be tall too.
-Mark Twain-
Competitiveness can exist at all levels, even with ourselves. We can be competitive trying to be better people and achieve our goals. But you have to be careful about it, because excessive competitiveness can be frustrating.
We believe that we should be recognized for being loved, and if we are the best in any field, we will have that recognition and that love, yet this belief is false, because winning does not mean attaining love, winning is ephemeral, what remains. with us is to learn.
So don’t compete with anyone, work with someone. And be careful not to compete too much with yourself so you don’t get frustrated and lose confidence.
Comparison at any given time can increase our self-esteem, but it often has many side effects: it diverts attention from the task we do and reduces our internal motivation.
For example, if we focus on reading more books than our colleague because we like to read it can be very rewarding, however, if we start reading by obligation and competing, we will begin to hate books. Remember: competing with someone, even for what you prefer, can be exhausting.
The most important thing to avoid the comparisons that hurt us is to increase our self-esteem and understand that people are unique and different, suffering because a person has a better home or a better job than ours makes us lose sight of him. different goals, based on what we want and not what others have achieved.
If we properly manage our self-esteem, we will be able to see the positive side of comparisons and use their motivating power for tasks that we do not like and we have to do, however, careful not to act with exaggerated perfectionism, since the line between positive and negative comparison is very thin.
“A bird perched on a tree never fears that the branch will break, because its trust is not on the branch, but on its own wings. “
-Adah Vigo-