Someone else’s opinion is just that, the opinion of a mind different from our own, with other experiences and interests that are not ours. Everyone lives with people who like to think, judge, and project their lives and experiences into others. that their limits are ours, that the path they took was the best and that doing something else is to deviate from the right.
Often, these people will try to make us feel that we are worth less and that we are not good enough; however, holding others accountable for their inability to solve their own problems and feel responsible for other people’s problems are two ways of not being in control. about our own lives.
- We may at some point belong to one or both groups.
- Don’t expect others to do things for you.
- If you don’t do it yourself.
- How do you want others to do it for you?and lives.
- Without waiting for others to respond.
- Is the most mature and intelligent decision we can make.
In the culture of immediacy, effort and perseverance are most affected. We want a lot of things and we want them now. No planning, no rest. Remember that it is in the ability to differ rewards and benefits that dreams differ from whims. To persevere is to do what is necessary in the time necessary.
For us to be our Plan A, we must live for ourselves, setting aside what they can say about our behavior, if we take into account all the opinions of others, we will never hear the opinion that really matters: ours.
It’s not about taking an arrogant stance, but about not letting others embarrass us with your comments or your behavior. Taking charge of our life implies a deep self-awareness and a deep conviction that we must pursue our own interests, striving, as much as possible. possible, not harm others. Remember that if you live your life to please others, your chances of success will be lower.
Just as no one can feel like you, no one can think for you or be on your mind. Somehow we first have to learn who we are (in this learning we understand that there are characteristics that unso together us and separate us from others)
However, we can still change our internal dialogue. By replacing the ‘poor of me’ with one and a ‘it will make me stronger’ we change the attitude with which we face life, which although they seem like few words, will give us a definitive push to neurochemical changes that produce these attitudes in our brains.
No one can know about us, no one can grow up for us, no one can look for us and no one can do for us what we have to do for ourselves. At this point, life admits helpers, but not substitutes. Nothing can provide thought. We need others, but ultimately, to build our own thinking, the criterion is that no one has to decide for us.
Only then will we be able to respond as we really are, producing a knowledge of ourselves that will eventually lead us to know what is right for us and why we have chosen it.