Do we organize our lives to feel safe, as if we were still driving on autopilot?Until there are unforeseen events that take us out of our comfort zone and there is no choice but to disable the autopilot and drive ourselves.
But why do we have to go through these unexpected situations?Do they happen by any chance or do they make sense? By asking ourselves these questions, we are generating important reflections that can allow us to make peace with those moments when the world seems to be changing.
- Depending on the perspective in which we observe the circumstances of life.
- We can.
- For example.
- See the unexpected events of life as mere random facts that have no meaning or meaning.
- In this case.
- Our role would be to remove the obstacles encountered.
- In the way of regaining lost balance.
- And unforeseen events would be mere threats to be fought in a hostile universe.
Another way to see the unexpected is to assume them as “teachers”?That they obey a plan greater than ours, whose goal would be to help us grow, learn and evolve. But if we choose to see the unexpected from the point of view of “meaningless randomness”, we choose to be reactive, leaving no room for reflection on what is happening in our inner world and end up getting carried away by our ego, which responds to patterns of automatic driving, such as conflicts, dramas, worries, depression and anxiety.
It is not difficult to deduce that this reactivity activates the buttons of those around us, which generates a chaotic chain reaction called by some karma, on the other hand, if we look at the unexpected from the perspective of meaning, they would cease to be so. intruders and become unexpected but friendly visitors, who surprise us and disturb us a little at first, even if in our hearts we know that we can trust what they bring us.
These perspectives have a calming and exciting effect because we stop being reactive and become attentive students, eager to learn more about ourselves and how we can transform dark situations into light situations, changing our reactive patterns through new creative ways to deal with events. love, peace and unity.
Our natural tendency to reactivity requires us to be vigilant to prevent it from falling into melodrama and chaos; that in the blink of an eye can turn an unforeseen event into a nightmare. Here are some tips for dealing with unforeseen circumstances:
? Take a deep breath: yes, we already know it’s a common resource, but that’s because it works, the biofeedback sends a message of calm to the brain that reverberates throughout our body, plus it saves space against impulsivity and responsiveness. preventing them from acting through our automatic driving standards.
? Ask yourself what this unexpected tells you. To do this, try to understand how it affects you, what area of your life, and why.
? What is the internal dialogue that activates with the situation: self-criticism, the judgment of others?Fear? Then become aware that your thoughts and emotions are not your essence, but passing clouds that temporarily obscure your light. Make sure it’s light, close your eyes and connect with it.
? Accept the unexpected as it is, not passively, but with the attitude of the attentive student, ready to learn more about yourself and act proactively and serenely accordingly. We have the power to transform the world simply by letting our essence shine, which is light. and wisdom, in unforeseen circumstances, humbly putting ourselves at the service of this great master who is life, for our good and that of others.
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