Many people are so afraid of rejection, and are so present in their thoughts that they live their lives without realizing it or without seeking to realize their own dreams or goals.
It is not that they are talentless people, but they tend to have a debilitating fear that prevents them from taking a step out of their comfort zone, although they have not taken any risks in their lives, they imagine various dangers around them that prevent them. from daring to give a chance to the good things that remain to be known.
“The worst enemy of hope is not the facts, but the brains of men who do not confront them.
? Max Eastman?
They do not try almost anything new, they prefer what they already have or do and try to avoid everything so as not to risk it going wrong (a risk present in most life activities). They hate routine as much as they love it. They watch adventure movies but plan their vacations in detail and always in familiar places, this attitude is generally neither conscious nor spoken, but it manifests itself by saying things like:
? Would that be too much?
“I couldn’t do anything else now. “
“I don’t have enough time. “
“I’m not that kind of person. “
These are, in general, the answers to a variety of ideas or possibilities different from everyday life: make a trip to a new or remote place, go back to school, try a new hobby, join a group or club, go to a social event. event, learn a new skill, meet new people, improve diet and exercise, to name a few.
Although people who speak like this do not identify as anxious, uncomfortable anxiety often accompanies them as if it were their shadow, organize their lives very strictly, with little room for spontaneity or new activities, they are afraid of everything different. and, above all, any activity in which success is not guaranteed.
People in insecurity situations are unemployed or underemployed, and they never seem to do much for outside observers, even if they say they are very busy. They generally feel vague or urgently that their lives are only a small part of what they could be. , or that are not satisfactory, but reject any possible changes and usually use the following excuses:
“I can’t quit my job because somewhere else, will I have all the benefits I have?
“I don’t like my job at all, but what if I leave it and can’t find another one?”
? Can’t I exercise because of my back?
? Can’t I work if I don’t sleep my eight hours?
“Don’t I get along with most people?
“Am I afraid of online meetings?
Is it too cold (or too hot) for that?
“I’m just not one (marathon runner, pilot, swimmer, dancer, writer, reader, student?)?
You only have one life left to live and I’m sure in a few years, when you look back, you’ll regret a lot more than you’ve done than those situations you’ve dared.
When you think you’re doing something, that causes butterflies in your stomach and at the same time, fear starts to show signs in your thoughts, ask yourself:
“What’s the worst that can happen?”
Are there few irreparable or immutable actions in life?And there are very few things that can kill you in an instant.
Ask yourself, what could I gain from this? Instead of?What can I lose with this?
This change of perspective is called making a movement toward life, different from having an escape movement.
“How could I try this to make my life more interesting?
You may doubt your ability to learn a new language, but wouldn’t it be better to go to class, meet people, listen to the teacher’s statements, even read the recommended book and make your life a little more interesting?The brain feeds on new things and challenges. Don’t erase your brain with the tedious routine.
“Could I try this to make the people I love happy?
Suppose you don’t like running, but your child would love to be trained to join him in his hobby. Your partner would like you to take ballroom dance classes so you can dance with him on a romantic evening. Is it worth a try?
Remember that when you are on your deathbed, no one will remember your downtime. People remember what happened, the relationships they had, the risks they took, and the life they actually lived.