Our lives are a continuous succession of negative and positive experiences that we experience, share and feel, no matter how they affect us.
Of all, negative experiences are the ones that mark us the most, because our natural state, in which we are happiest, is when everything is going well and we are only aware of time and our own existence.
I don’t start to appreciate things until everything turns against me
Negative experiences are necessary in our lives, they can help us position ourselves on our path, learn to make better decisions, know how to discern what we want from what we don’t want.
In short, every experience, but above all negative, helps us to be better people, but what happens when it is not? What happens when these experiences control our life?
You may think that the negative experiences you are experiencing, rather than improving your life, make the situation worse. What do we mean by that? Let them condition you.
For example, think about the following situations that we will describe, as many of you have experienced:
These situations and many others provoke something very natural, which is the search for pleasure and pain avoidance, lived in every negative experience.
But sometimes this fear of being helpless in an unexpected situation makes us put on a mask to hide what we can’t solve.
Masks that make us look like someone we are not and who, instead of helping us deal with our problem, increase our pain.
Today I will choose the mask of happiness, which will hide the sadness that is in my soul.
Even if negative experiences give us and affect us more intensely, we must prevent them from controlling and directing our lives.
Only we can decide how we will live our lives, how we want to act, how do we want to proceed?Experiences should move us forward, improve us, but never back down. Moreover, experiences should never make us unhappy.
How should we deal with these negative experiences?
Is it true that negative experiences cause insecurity, doubt, discomfort, sadness?But all this can be overcome and only you have the power to do it.
If you want to get out of this situation, you have to start fighting those feelings that are trying to drag you like a chain.
Avoid confusing thoughts that will only paralyze you and focus seriously on what you want.
It’s up to you. Don’t let negative experiences take over your life
We’re not saying you shouldn’t feel this insecurity, assimilate it, live it, but you can’t let it control you.
Think of negative experiences as situations you can learn from. From each negative thing, you can get something positive, something that only you can find, something that only you decide to try.