I do not believe in an ideal love, but in those inexplicable loves that drive us away and envelop us with intense and confused feelings, and that make us think about building true love, true love.
We all have in mind what our ideal love is like, we attribute to this physical image many values, perfect traits, where our greatest happiness lies.
- Dreaming is not bad; we need illusions to live in this difficult and complex world.
- Yet in love you have to act with your feet on the ground and open mind.
Do not idealize; there is no perfect love. There are people with flaws and virtues who can meet their needs and flaws.
We invite you to think about this: do not seek ideal love, build a real, true and conscious love.
You may have heard of conscious relationships. They are, so to speak, the opposite of romantic or unconscious love.
We know that many of you will be moved by our critique of romantic love, but it contains a number of very dangerous dimensions for our emotional balance.
? Romantic love symbolizes the idealization of a loved one and the construction of a character that does not correspond to reality.
? Romanticism or ideal love is a reflection of attachment, the need to have and possess the other, as the only way to be happy.
? This is not to say that in true love we cannot show affection, warmth and attention, it is about building a conscious love, through a healthy relationship where there is no need to subjugate or obsessive attachments.
The key is to forge healthy, harmonious and personal development relationships where the personal development of the couple is respected.
How to find and build a mature and conscious relationship
Finding the perfect person or the ideal person, this cannot be your goal in life.
Life is continuous learning, where every relationship of the past has left an experience and memories that are part of you, your previous failures do not define who you are today, they only teach you to walk more cautiously.
Don’t look, let it happen, taking care of your self-esteem, knowing what you want and moving away from what can cause suffering.
Try to grow, grow indoors every day and appreciate the person reflected in your mirror. Your inner happiness, balance and emotional maturity are the best gifts you can give your partner.
To build a real and conscious love, you must first become that person with whom “a life to share”. True love doesn’t magically come to you, but must it be?Every day.
Your heart may be injured by an earlier relationship, with an injury that needs to be cauterized.
? After a failure or a rupture, we need to reconnect with ourselves; with who we are, with our needs and with our inner voice. You’ve spent a lot of energy with the other person and it’s time to prioritize.
? Lose the fear of loneliness or abandonment, you have to learn to be alone, without being dramatic.
? Regain your self-esteem, self-love and your union with yourself, accept yourself as you are, with what you have and what you have learned, to fill the gaps and needs that we hope to fill in one way or another
Start a new relationship as a mature person, who has learned from his experiences and is now free to start over and build a real, full and above all courageous love.
Some loves come suddenly to take us away, as we said at the beginning, they are inexplicable loves.
No matter how you started, the key is to build a daily relationship with respect, balance, and complicity.
Building conscious love requires goodwill from both sides, understanding differences, and valuing everything that unies them.
Remember: stop seeking an ideal or perfect love, we are all imperfect beings who strive every day to build a perfect life, and that’s what counts?