They say trying to forget is remembering forever, and that’s true. Trying to get rid of one’s own feelings is an adventure that can end in tragedy. Emotional suicide, real madness?
The truth is that trying to forget a thought is different from forgetting a feeling or an emotion. To control your thoughts, you have to get used to thinking about something else, imagining or saying “STOP” when something comes to mind.
- However.
- Trying to suppress our emotions and what they entail is denying reality and all the memories that are presented to us.
- That is.
- Trying to inhibit or get rid of what we feel reveals everything we want to avoid.
“I don’t like it anymore, it’s true, but maybe I still love it
Love is so short and forgetfulness so long.
Because on nights like this I hugged her
my soul is not content to have lost it?
? Pablo Neruda?
Often, wanting to forget is unconsciously maintaining a relationship with that person; However, you may be trying to forget a feeling, not a person.
Every emotion and every memory makes us pay attention to our deepest self, to which we renounce and to which we avoid paying attention in the day to day. That’s why it’s so complicated to understand; our conscience and our words cannot express how the soul feels.
These situations require intense inner work that will undoubtedly disturb us. We need to be aware that we can have mixed feelings, we can be angry with ourselves and the world, feel anger, jealousy and all kinds of emotions that our morals condemn.
This is normal, so we have to try to assume these emotions naturally. We cannot get our minds to avoid our emotions; it’s really impossible and dangerous.
What we have to do is learn to manage our emotions, our behaviors and promote our well-being. Working in this direction does not mean trying to feel good at all costs, but to try to understand how our hearts feel.
In other words, is it impossible to escape suffering and the only way to make it disappear is to live it until it runs out?
Don’t try to avoid pain, the solution is to try to understand to remember without pain. The heart only becomes healthy when we are able to remember the good times.
What hurts is not remembering those moments, but the loss of a loved one or a feeling that has disappeared and that we no longer find.
Given the psychological effort to understand that people come and go, we will realize that what is important is our memories, because they will always stay with us.
When we are able to understand this, we will realize that it is our experiences that shape our lives and make us better people.
Each of our feelings becomes an important part of ourselves that we cannot erase, because everything we do not want to lose will remain forever in our hearts.