It is common to feel that we have lost our value to the people we love but unfortunately do not like them in the same way, we have come to believe that the reasons why they do not like us are always due to personal defects or, as they say, to “our way of being”. why don’t we integrate?.
I mean, we ended up not giving ourselves the courage we deserved in the desire to have questions and answers for almost everything. This? Loss of value? By habit or routine, it is a common feeling in romantic relationships, magic is lost, touch, demonstrations of affection and so love is destroyed.
- However.
- Just because it is common does not mean that it does not “immerse us in emotional misery”.
- That it does not affect and end relationships that have promised everything and that have stayed in nothingness.
- In any case.
- Knowing that this is happening.
- It is very important that we are aware of our resources to avoid pain.
“It is absolutely necessary to commit suicide from time to time. Run away, lose, feel your body empty, exhausted, wounded. Change skin, drink, play deeply and you don’t remember anything. To be absent from everything, then to take on life. . Find yourself. And dress in pastel colors, walk lightly and smile at the neighbors when they greet you on the stairs?-Unknown author-
The culprit for this loss of value is undoubtedly customary, it is common to get used to what we have and not appreciate what the other means in our lives, whether it be our loving companion, friend or family member.
Consequently, we ignore care, affection and daily conquest. We leave out the smiles, the “hello”, the caresses intertwined with pleasant words, the ability to surprise?
Over time, we become routine, obligation, and indifference and become cold, callous, motionless, and inert stones.
We may even be kind to others, perhaps we focus on our work, our new interests, sport, other friendships or relationships, etc. , yet we often forget to be what we should be for THIS PERSON, so love dies in the clutches of the onslaught of indifference and those bad habits that we maintain by not appreciating what we have.
It’s often said that you don’t know what you have until you lose it, nothing further from reality. Of course, we know what we have, what happens, is that we don’t imagine that the day can come to lose everything.
We believe that these PEOPLE will always be there, that we will last long enough to deserve the time that remains with our partner, that these are bad steps and bad habits and that, if something goes wrong, it will improve over the years.
However, it is likely that the time will come when one of the members of the relationship may think (or rather say, feel) that what is not resolved by changing the page will be corrected by changing books, this is perfectly normal and understandable. because we cannot spend our whole lives under an emotional relationship that devours us from within, ending our expectations and deceiving our needs.
We weren’t made to comply. Therefore, normally, if we remain long immersed in a deleted relationship that has succumbed to indifference and anhedonia (the loss of the ability to feel pleasure, typical of states of severe depression), we will make it a “burial in life”. will aggravate our emotional exchange.
Being together is much more than loving us. Therefore, in order for a love of any kind to succeed it is essential that there is a mutual interest and that it is demonstrated as such, otherwise the emotional relationship will become an emotional drain for the couple who want but cannot.