Ingratitude, frustration, anger, disappointment? Feelings that arise from expectations about something or someone in situations where the desired or imagined result was not achieved.
The human being lives in the hope of getting a promotion in his work, that he will achieve it, that he can always count on a friend, who would do the same for him and so on. that way chances are it is.
- Expectations are sources of fuel to feed our souls in need and keep us alive in the face of so much bitterness in life.
- Even one imagines absurd situations.
- With a very idealized or overly optimized look.
- And it is not so bad.
- As long as there is a balance.
However, the real result of what I idealicé can be disastrous, generating several negative feelings, such as ingratitude, frustration, anger, and it hurts enormously. We expect too much of something the other can’t give us.
If we let these feelings take over, the vicious circle is created, it is as if one thing led to another, idealizo, I imagine it will be so.
It doesn’t happen as I would like, I’m frustrated, and to get out of that feeling I idealize it again, I put my expectations on other things and other people, and everything happens again in the same way. The vicissitudes of life are numerous, and if we do not realize them, the tendency is to repeat ourselves without realizing it, for years and years.
From the moment you decide to take control of your life, take the pill of responsibility for your actions, you will realize how much this weight of frustration will not take the devastating proportion in your life. The wait is yours, the idealization of something or someone was yours, so the responsibility for this is more yours than the other’s.
Reducing expectations about things and people is a fundamental step to grow with yourself, you will realize that yes, it depends on certain people and situations, but they no longer take care of the way you are and to be.
Your part will be done, what will belong to others is their problem, plus yours. You will start acting with the balance of reason and emotion, real and ideal.
It is not about stopping dreaming, being optimistic, waiting for others, but about knowing how far your expectations go and how far the other person can give them or not, this means being prepared for the answers that life or people are going to give it, not be assigned in such a way that it “loses ground. “
Over time, probably after many blows, you’ll see how much it takes. Being frustrated with our expectations is one of the ways to mature!”I matured with the passage of d (years)!? But staying in pain is optional.