Some studies show that every day we hear or read more than 200 lies, right?I think there may be others, I don’t mean the explicit lie we tell for a number of reasons, for example to get something, to save time, not to disturb someone or because we know they’re not going to find out. the implicit or deductible lie in many situations in our daily lives. We also lie about hiding information; you can lie without words, by a false smile by greeting the neighbor, if you do not leave with your face, or by the main method of the present moment, which is the use of social networks. mask our appearance and our true emotional state.
In this sense, in a recent survey of 2,000 Facebook users, 80% admitted to lying on at least one information they post on the social network, but isn’t it strange that we post that we’re sad or that everything is wrong?? But instead, if we publish the delicious dishes we’re going to eat, no one will think of posting a burnt barbecue!Or the summer photo, the image of relaxed and quiet feet on the beach. Someone releases arm tension by constantly placing the beach bag where our iPhone was?
- Also on Twitter.
- We intend to project an ideal image of ourselves.
- According to British scientists.
- We claim to be intellectuals to seem more sexually attractive to potential boyfriends.
- Two-thirds of respondents said they were attracted to intelligence and 70% said they preferred intelligence to their partner’s beauty.
- Then it becomes easier to use the network to be smarter.
- More present and more creative.
- Maybe the question “why do we lie?” you can never answer them.
- Except with half-truths.
- But I think the LNP can help us answer some questions.
- It is a good tool to be able to understand and concrete how we communicate and how we select in all our thoughts the information that I want to see visible at the tip of the iceberg.
In general, in a communication process, 3 types of language models occur, according to the language metamodel:
1. Generalization: the person filters his experiences considering only the evidence that confirms a general rule and avoids considering nuances or exceptions to the rule, this is where the so-called universal quantifiers (always, never, everything, no one, etc. appear. An example: why are everyone different on social media?It would certainly be a good tweet. Well, even if you print a social desire on our part (occurrence and creativity), there are certainly real people on social media.
2. Omission: in this case the person omits information, assuming that the caller has understood the “missing”. There may be verbal, substantial or comparative omissions (better, worse, etc. ), among others. This is one of the most used on social networks, perhaps on Twitter, because we have to limit ourselves to specific characters, or on Facebook, where we omit information that is not ideal. An example: “Best of the day”: (followed by the image of a sensational pizza), but I omitted the image of my dirty and fragrant kitchen on fire, so I had to order prepared meals.
3. Distortion: Finally, the person makes distorted interpretations of something that happened or could happen, phenomena such as mind reading, causal relationships, among others, occur here. An example :?How happy Eva is with her boyfriend!Certainly they never fight !?. Or even: How fast are you going !!! How are things going to go ????. Well, again we idealize the image or the tweet, since Eva also fights with her boyfriend and we are not always so creative with our tweets, otherwise there would be no RT !!!(which is a way to communicate when you have no divine inspiration).
This language metamodel can bring us closer to understanding why, from the moment we think to the moment we say something, we select a lot of information and, logically, as an iceberg, we leave visible only the point that we want social competence, because we want to project an idyllic image of ourselves, perhaps more happiness on Facebook and more intellect on Twitter. In the end, man is a social animal that always seeks the approval of the group. Or it could also be because it would be impossible to constantly say everything we think (the truth). What if we said everything we thought from when we got up to bedtime?
First, we would not talk to anyone because, of course, we would offend more than one person and, besides, it would not be the ideal image because, whether we like it or not, it would be a generalization:
Isn’t anyone perfect? We said it all the time. Hou la la la! Complete!
I now apologize if, at some point, throughout this article, I lied by omission, generalization or distortion, that was not my intention. Maybe I just wanted to project some social competition, maybe deep down in my iceberg, what I want is to look happier on Facebook and smarter on Twitter, because, honestly, I’m neither psychic nor anything, nor an expert on many things. , but only a common psychologist trying to excel.
Image courtesy of Dmytro Pylypenko