Someone gave me advice that I didn’t want and could never forget: don’t run after someone you know where you are, not even out of a moral requirement, when I asked why I should be so radical in my way. to act, what they answered me served to open my eyes several times in my life.
First, they said to me, “Don’t run after anyone, not even yourself, because no one needs someone behind you, you just need someone by your side. “Then they said to me, “If someone brings you anything, let them go, because if they still have something to offer in your daily life, you won’t have to beg anymore. “
“The secret is not to chase the butterflies, it is to take care of the garden so that they come to you.
Next, we’ll talk about what happens when you’re looking for someone who isn’t you, without finding an answer, but what if what happens haunts you?It sounds strange, but it can happen. We often feel better when we run away from what’s happening to us or let everything slip away from us.
When we run after something that is no longer there, we run after ourselves and that is never good, we must always look forward, pursue something that we do not know where it is and that we want to find as our future. we run after what we were and what we’re not, we’ll never win.
On many occasions, we do not really dare to stop, because we are afraid to look at the void and think of it, yet we will never find a void every time we accept that we are the first ones we must love.
You certainly think that saying all this is very easy, but that in our lives there is a small group of people that we want close to us, even if they do not insist on our presence.
However complicated, it is very positive to remember that to maintain a living relationship, the most necessary ingredient is interest, if there is no interest there is no relationship, because what brings us together is the desire to know us. , with all that it entails.
We can’t feel bad about breaking up with the one left over from a relationship that ended: they don’t need you if they don’t want you to complete life next door, and you don’t have to go through that. nor, it simply lacks something that is no longer and that cannot be, to understand this, to be valued and not to be minimized is the first big step to take to move forward.
That’s exactly what it is. You don’t want to be there waiting for that person to turn around and look at you. He doesn’t want to be there if he knows she’s not looking at him because he doesn’t want to. Look inside and think about it: are you sure you don’t want to keep up?
“So a person plants his own garden and decorates his own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring him flowers. “
? Jorge Luus Borges?
Among other things, growing up is learning to set the course and speed of life, you are the one who decides how to cultivate what you have, how to give love: knowing that the one who loses the most is always the one who does not know how to receive it. Share what’s inside you with everyone who wants it, because it’s the fairest way to give and receive true affection.