Sometimes words are omitted. When someone opens their heart and tells us something important to them, it may be better not to say anything (nothing more than a sign so the person knows we’ve heard).
We must let him enjoy his breaks and let his breath invade the environment generated by the report, in these cases silence can comfort you much more than any empty observation.
- Why can a look.
- Gesture or caress give us more than a “support.
- ” “Am I here?Or are you counting on me? They are not empty or mundane phrases.
- So they are loaded with great emotional significance.
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They are not easy to replace with nonverbal language, so when saying nothing is the best way to support each other.
Not saying anything can be a way to emotionally support others
Traditionally, sound has always been the extraordinary thing: the cry of a baby, the siren of an ambulance, a roar, a cry of pain, etc. , are all warning signs that alert us. Therefore, it seems reasonable to think that noise alerts our brain and leaves us in an urgent mood.
On the contrary, the growth of flowers, the evolutionary psychological development of people and many ways of putting creativity into practice are usually done in absolute silence.
So when there is nothing to contribute, or nothing can be said to improve silence, it is best to remain silent.
“Never break the silence if it’s not to improve it”?Ludwig van Beethoven?
Trying to fill calm with neutral, empty comments is not to alleviate the uncomfortable feeling of that silence, but quite the opposite, which can even help increase discomfort.
In addition, it is prudent to keep our mouths shut when we suspect that our contribution may be useless.
So, when someone asks an awkward question, silence can be one of the most convincing answers, especially if the answer is no. After all, silences often speak louder than the words themselves, in fact, there are silences that say it all.
Certainly, on some occasions, we have already felt the need to go home and “free ourselves” from all the frustration of the day. All we want is for someone to be vigilant and listen to us. Be attentive and understand pain, frustration, or discomfort. We’re not looking for anything else, just venting.
In those cases, if someone confronts us, we may even end up arguing with that other person, because she does not need to give her opinion, or respond about what happened to us, we are just looking for comfort and support. , feel that we are not alone in different situations of life.
It is in these small moments that attentive silence is appreciated more than words.
“The right word can be effective, but no word is as effective as silence. “Mark Twain?
In a conversation, the absence of a fluid dialogue can make us uncomfortable, this disagreement raises doubts, and even one wonders what the other thinks.
Do you want to talk to me?There is a fear of the absence of noise, because silence leaves us alone before our conscience.
Therefore, so that silence is not so disturbing, it is good to learn to appreciate it, to know that when we look inward we can get to know each other better.
Shutting up, or saying nothing, does not mean to cease to exist, to think or to live, in fact this silence, when it is well controlled, facilitates an encounter with ours, me, and a conversation with him.
“True friendship comes when the silence between the two seems sweet. “Were you from Rotterdam?
A discussion accompanied by prolonged silence can create a tense atmosphere, so if we value ourselves and respect each other, and have enough self-control to do so, it is more convenient to remain silent than to share our point of view.
We must avoid starting a conflict that does not lead us anywhere, basically we all know with which subjects and people it is recommended to adopt this attitude: in the face of problems that are not of great importance, and people with a particular propensity to discuss and discuss. accept personal criticism.
In these cases, silence can say, secretly, that we disagree with what the other said, without initiating an argument, then, do we?And we avoid being slaves to our words.
While we tend to value friendly relationships based on constant conversation and emotional openness, it is also good to stop and think on the other side, this side respects the time and space of others, in which everyone can enjoy a few seconds of reflection and peace. .
The best response to anger is silence.